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writes:Okay so this is kind of weird. I'm a architect, lesbian and from manchester. 7 months ago I got talking to a girl on facebook (i didnt know her she's from london) she's gorgeous, we really clicked, and was talking every day for hours. I had a girlfriend then as well. After a few weeks of talking online we exchanged numbers and would text all day and then end up talking for hours on the phone, we both really liked each other. one night i ended up having a one night stand, my girlfriend found out and we finished. By that time i had been talking to the girl from london for about 4 months, we'd chat on camera, send eachother gifts through the post etc... this wasn't just a bit of fun now, i thought about her every single day and had surprisingly started to develop feelings for her even though we hadn't met in person, she told me she felt the same and was desperate to meet me and i wanted to meet her too. However just as we arranged this i got a great opportunity to go and work in New York for 18 months, i accepted it and i'm due to move in May. She still wants to meet up and spend as much time with me as she can before i move, but i'm really falling for her and i'm scared that spending time with her will make this situation worse and that i'll not want it to end, even though it will have to in May. So i told her i dont want to meet. We had a few rows about it, and she thought i was messing her around and playing with her head, so she wanted to cut contact with me and try and 'get over' it. We stopped talking for 3 days and it was the hardest 3 days ever, forgetting about my girlfriend was easier. I felt lost without talking to her and really missed her, anyway after 3 days she rang me and said she couldnt forget about me and that she had missed me too. So we have carried on as we were. Texting every day, talking on the phone every night, having web cam chats, phone sex, writing each other letters and sending each other silly gifts, she really means a lot to me and its really confused me because i would normally laugh at people who say they have fallen in love with someone online. I feel like ive known her forever and we tell each other everything. Do you think i'm being silly not meeting her? Because i want her more than ever now and its becoming really hard for me not having her with me. But then this is what im scared of, i feel like this now so what will i be like when ive had her and have to move away!She's told me she loves me and i think i love her, she said she'll wait for me to come back from new york in 18 months and then we can be together and i really do want to be with her, but i feel like im being selfish having her wait that long for me when there's girls queuing up for her back in london. I would just appreciate any advice on whether what we are doing is the right thing or not?
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 February 2010):
She's said she will wait for you and has said she loves you. If she loves you and only wants you, there is no selfishness about asking her to wait for you. She wants to wait. So trust her and go for it with her. Because if you don't and she does move on, you will have that big 'what if' always hanging over your head. This is a big test of whether you both love each other or not. If you can get through this, you'll get through almost anything. Go for it.
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