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writes:I'm just wondering...is it possible for friends to become lovers? and should i tell him i really like him?I get mixed signals from him but i think he's into me. I'm afraid i will ruin our friendship if he dosen't feel the same way and we will never be the same again.We're so close and i just want to be with himSomeone PLEASE HELP! Reply to this Question
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reader, Dawnest +, writes (11 January 2006):
Its happens but it seldom leads to an enduring sexual relationship. Its best to keep things on a platonic basis because the moment his hard drive connects to your modem, friendship is replaced by awkwardness and the need to keep away from each other becomes a priority.
Enjoy the chemistry between you/ flirt as its a way of making you feel good but its really is best not to extend the boundaries if you want to stay good friends.
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reader, msxcarlett +, writes (10 January 2006):
It can work.
But the experience I and many of my friends have had...lets just say keep i would keep it PLATONIC!
..Him and I were inseperable..the BEST OF BEST of friends. Now....well, in his eyes we are still "good friends",but it just isnt worth the effort or bother because we constantly argue,so i avoid any contact from him what-so-ever, because warring with eachother is just so stupid and uneccesary.
Once you cross that "line"you cant really go back to how it was before.He came to me with the pretense and confidence that this was possible..im not niave and told him that it wouldnt work-he denied it...guess what?...now i CAN NOT talk to him about any male,advice on guys..all the stuff we would and could talk about before..at the end of the day im not making him jealous ( it has been a year and he claimed to be "over me" way before i was him) and this is what he tells me. Its just plain idiocy.
This is MY personal advice,but its a road that I would not go down again. Not only did it hurt,but i lost and miss a really good friend.-so yeah, i regret it BIG time.
If you do decide to go through with it..just becareful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2006): Of course! You should be friends first then lovers not the other way around! If you do feel that strongly I would let him know if he doesn't feel the same then oh well at least you let it out I doubt it will destroy your friendship cause if he's your friend then he should understand and not hold that to you! Maybe give it sometime and see if he feels the same way then let him know how you feel just feel him out first and wait for the right time to say it! Good Luck!
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