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anonymous
writes:Why do men fear relationships/commitment so much, even if they fall in love?Why can't they just "go with the flow"?? Reply to this Question
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reader, xx-miss-cupid-xx +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Hey x
The trouble with men...commitment phobes. That's what the stereotype is, but there are lots of men who prove it wrong.
You shouldn't believe this stereotype...just carry on trying to find the right guy who wants to stick with you.
The only reasons I can think of that created this idea are that the man in question is not ready to settle down, or they're just generally a love rat.
Good luck!
Cara -x-
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): I agree that this stereotype doesn't apply to all men, not by a long shot, but all stereotypes have a basis in truth to some degree. For a lot of guys, making a relationship more permanent through marriage or whatever doesn't feel like "going with the flow". For some of them it feels more like taking a hard turn into a completely different river, and it's the change that freaks them out.
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reader, Dr. Reality Check +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Agree with Dr Pete 100%.
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (18 January 2007):
 To sum things up...It is inaccurate to make generalisations about males (or anyone for that matter) and not all males are commitment phobes. Some?Yes. Most?I don't know. All?Definately not.
It depends on the type of guy you attract and the signals you give out to them. There are good and 'normal' guys out there waiting to be found. Don't let bad experiences put you off. ok?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): can you please not put all men in the same box?
we're all different hun, some do run and hide but some of us are quite happy to have long term partners. some of us wish that the women they met didnt run away either!!
its all about who you attract and the type of guys you pick, and your obiously aiming at the wrong type
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 Maybe the men you're longing for aren't "flowing" in the same direction as you. LOL.
Maybe they don't see the "big picture" as well as you. . . or maybe they don't like what they see. There are all sorts of reasons. A 50% divorce rate might have something to do with it. That should make women a little leary of commitment too.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (18 January 2007):
 hi there
i dont know the answer i do agree with dr pete, but at the same time i will keep my reservations.
one thing i realised about men and women (just an opinion not a fact) is that men are more visionaries in a sense that he knows a woman he would want to marry only when she comes into his life, which means if u have one and is not committing it means u are not the one, or if u have one and have been engaged for years and he keeps on making excuses on setting up the wedding date it meaans he is having doubts unless his excuses are very reasonable, he can build an empire and still had no life, etc etc. with women we are more operational if i have met the right man i want marriage, children, if there is more than enough income i would want a better house for my family, drive a better family car, get a job that will not be difficult to juggle between kids, husband and social life etc etc.
remember we have a biological clock that keeps ticking every second and we can only we ignore it if we dont want family ties to disturb our careers and men do not have that constraint which means if he has his whole life ahead of him why settle for less?
so sister review your choice in men, look for potential and dont blame all men because one, two or three men didnt want any commitment, search for fun, friendship and companionship then u see what happens
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2007): Could you tell me why so many women generalise about men so much?
In answer to your questions - you are obviously attracting the same kind of non-commiting men. That is a problem with you, not with "men".
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