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writes:Dear CupidMe and my bf of 2 years were arguing about stupid stuff today in my apartment and in the middle of an argument he said he was better than his father and i got angry, since his father was really a good man and my bf is an cheater (he cheated on me twice). I told him the same thing, he got pissed off and said that i dont have any rights to talk about his dad and called me some really nasty names and left me and told me never ever to call him again.I really dont understand what i did wrong here. Called him once, he didnt pick up and i am kind of scared to call him again. I am sure he is gonna disconnect/switch off his mobile if i call and i dont want to be insulted in that way. Can anyone please tell me what exactly went wrong here? Is he is gonna break up with me. I love him a lot and i dont want our relationship to end this way. Please help me
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 April 2011):
 No matter how much you love him the fact remains that he doesn't love you enough to not cheat on you. Holding on to him simply because you love him is you failing to see that it takes two to have a relationship. You loving him just isn't enough.
He got mad because he's guilty for cheating and doesn't enjoy being reminded of how much of a failure he is. If you want to have him you can't ever mention him cheating on you again, as bringing a certain thing up over and over again gets tiring. However, I'd suggest you review this relationship. There are plenty of men out there to love, and you will love again, so why are you insisting on holding on to a guy who doesn't want to talk to you?
You can get better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2011): Hey, let him go. No one deserves to get cheated on. You definitely don't deserve it. You may feel sad, guilty and lonely in thinking of leaving him, but put emotions a side and think logically. There are guys out there who are honest and respectful and who don't cheat. What went wrong was, you denied him that he was like or much better than his father, this making him feel less worthy. Which by the sounds of it, he is not acting or being a good person. Don't let guilt bother you or apologize for his outburst and extreme anger, there is no excuse for it. He ran off and turned his cell phone of because he doesn't want to hear the truth, and to possibly make you feel bad and guilty.This is child like behavior, and he needs to grow up.I would let him go by the sounds of it. There is no excuse for cheating, especially twice. It will be hard at the start but in the end it will be the right choice. You need to think about what is right for you and what you want out of a relationship. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2011): He cheats on you twice and your main concern is why he got mad during an argument? Why do you want to be with a man who doesn't respect you enough to keep his pants zipped?
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 April 2011):
 Let's see; he calls you nasty names, can't communicate, storms off, cheats on you... WOW! What a great catch! Hold onto him forever!
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Sounds like he did break up with you. Honestly, if he cheated twice, you're better off without him. Consider yourself fortunate to have gotten rid of this loser.
You struck a nerve with what you said. But he's a big baby who storms off and doesn't discuss problems. What about that is appealing at all?
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