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writes:I would really like some advice on how long it takes to get over a relationship. I was with my ex for 3 1/2 years and have since been split up for 6 months. We went cold turkey for a few months then got back into contact. We became very close again and it could be said we were back together. Then he changed his mind and admitted he liked another girl now everything has gone bad and hes pretty much with her. We have decided to stay mates but im not sure if this is the best idea. I dont seem to be able to move on from him, my feelings are just as strong as they were 6 months ago. I would really appreciate it if anyone could give me advice on how to move on and how long it will take. Its got to the stage where im just down all the time and really need help to move on from him, but more impotantly how long it takes. Thank you!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (21 November 2009):
Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank You for you help guys!! :D .. It really is time i cut contact and move on! :) wish me luck!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (20 November 2009):
I'm never sure that it's a good idea for exes to remain friends, because one usually still fancies the other (as you do) and it often means it's more difficult to move on. He was abit cruel, stringing you along like he did, so I'm not sure he's even that great a guy to be honest. I think it would be easier for you if you did end contact and move on from him, leaving him in the past where he belongs. As for moving on, you need to remeber that you were together for some time, so it will take time to get over him. Some take months, others maybe a year, or even longer. There's no set time limit. You need to make sure you mixing and meeting with friends and new people, going out and making your own life happy and being happy for yourself. You'll start to forget him when you realize there is more out there. And then, when you're ready, you'll find a guy who will love you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): I think it depends on how eager you are to move on.
Think of it this way dear...
If he moved on, you can do that too.
It doesn't matter how long it takes or how painful the process is, at the end you will find yourself that you have already moved on.
Because there is no choice but to move on. For now, here's what you can do:
Don't contact him anymore. Delete every trace of his contact details.
Think of your self. Happiness is a choice. Choose to be happy.
Meet new people and have fun with your friends.
The sooner you can do this, the better.
Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2009): Being friends with an ex after breaking up with feelings still lingering is a road to disaster. Be apart from him, and for good.
There is no period for the moving on process and getting over him. Everyone recovers differently from a break up. Some people can get over someone quickly, for some people it takes longer.
It's hard coming out of a long term relationship and that your boyfriend likes someone else, its a horrible feeling. But times like this makes us stronger and it can prepare ourselves in the future. Everyone will experience this at least one time in their lives.
What you can do to move on? Spoil yourself, focus on yourself and what you want.
Be with friends, meet new people. Have the time of your life. Do something that you've wanted to do but couldn't when in a relationship. You're FREE!! And boyfriend won't hold you back from doing what you so wish!!!
All the best, you'll be fine.
You're not alone in this
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