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writes:Can anyone explain this weird phenomenon? When I was single I had barely gotten any female attention. Now that I'm not single anymore, it's like suddenly they are lining up to hit on me, seduce me, even try to kiss me. Okay mostly they are drunk while they are doing these things but still... I've discussed this with friends and it seems that I'm not the only one that this has happenend to.
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reader, TheFlash07 +, writes (24 October 2010):
TheFlash07 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Well maybe willpower isn't the correct word, but I guess I keep thinking, why didn't they notice me when I was single. My current relationship isn't exactly how I want it to be. I guess I wonder if I could have a better and more satisfying relationship with someone else. But I don't want to hurt my gf, I can't hurt her like that, I love her too much, which is why it hurt so much when she broke up with me a year ago. I wanted this second time to be better, but it isn't, not at all. I've been thinking about ending it for a while. Love hurts indeed, single life was so much simpler.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Just to clarify, I used the assumption of marriage as an example, if you are not married, they could still see your girlfriend and think the same thing.
And what do you mean it takes all your willpower? Are you saying that you are struggling to keep faithful to your girlfriend? Perhaps you should stay away from bars or, if you do not love your girlfriend, break up with her. It should not be taking all your 'willpower'.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael +, writes (24 October 2010):
Here is what I think happens. It is not just physical factors that attracts women, we all know that. Something my sister told me was that for some odd reason she found good husbands sexually appealing (she said it did not matter whose husband it was, it just attracts her). So perhaps the same falls true to all those other women, they see your wedding wing perhaps and imagine you as a good husband so you are the more appealing to them. It is just a theory though. You could have changed physically over the course of your marriage.
I hope that helps.
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reader, TheFlash07 +, writes (24 October 2010):
TheFlash07 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just can't wrap my head around it, it should be the other way around, I would've loved the attention when I was single. It takes all my willpower to deny these women, because some off them are sooo hot. And as probably most of you guys out there know, it's hard to deny a beautiful woman while you're drunk. (Especially, and don't let my gf hear me say this, they are prettier then your own gf, I mean mindblowingly hot) If the personality would be equally as good, I would cheat on my gf in a heartbeat. But unfortunatly that's not the case. Some of you might think, wow is it that easy for him to cheat, well atm I'm a bit unhappy in my current relationship, intimacy level has hit a low. So when a smoking hot girl comes up to me and wants to make out, I mean my own gf barely touches me lately. Oh well in the end I probably wouldn't cheat, even though I'm dying on the inside, it's not in my nature to hurt people like that. Especially not if you love them. Guess I'm just in a rough patch atm will pass soon hopefully, writing here helps :)
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reader, slimfish  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 yep, it happened with me as well. i thought i was the only one for a long tome then realised its another female thing.
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