A
female
age
41-50,
*eddy
writes: My husband is so much obsessed with his sister that he believes whatever she says is true. He doesn't even think whether she is telling the truth or not. He is not ready to hear a single word against her at all. He keeps giving her money whenever she asks him for. She is taking advantage of her brother. Can anybody tell me what can i do to make him understand that his sister is taking advantage of him?
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reader, A Cappella +, writes (28 April 2008):
You can't. You've already told us that he believes her over you. Nothing you can say will stop that. Don't criticize your sister-in-law to your husband or he will take her side. Come at this from a different direction.
I don't know what the laws are in India, so forgive me if I recommend something that won't work for you.
If you were it the US, I would tell you that the money he's giving to her is 50 percent yours. You need to get him to see you as his partner, and that he needs to talk to you about financial decisions (regardless of the validity of her statements, whether she's telling the truth or not). Any money he gives her is money that you and he don't have for YOUR family (you and him and your children -- current or future -- I mean). He needs to involve you in that. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): wats wrong in taking money frm elder brother??? u need to understand the way u hv relation with him so does his sister.bt yes,if u hv found sumthng wrong with yr sister in law,,if she is getting in some bad company then u need to put check on her.so in tat case,u shud wait n watch her action closely n make sure tat she is unaware abt u keping an eye on her so tat she will be at ease in watever she is doin and then u can actually trap her doing action n can make yr husband see too as then u will be hvng evidence.rite? so in short try to be JAMES BOND
cheer!!
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