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anonymous
writes:Can any one suggest a way to kill off unwanted emotions? Long story made short, I'm married for 6 years with 3 gorgeous kids and a fabulous husband. We have a great life together, all except I seem to not fancy my husband any more, I love him dearly but feel like I'm pretending with him.In recent months Ihave bumped into my first love (definitly my soulmate!) in the supermarket or about, each time I see him my heart races, I feel sick in my stomach and I know every square inch of me burns for him! How do I get rid of these feelings? I am loyal to my husband and will always be, I have seen too much heartache in families and there is no way on this earth that I will break up mine or cause them any harm. I know my 1st love has no idea about how I feel, but has started to suggest meeting for coffee.... no way will I go but my heart is crying to go....Can any one help me? im fighting with myself and im crying inside, i cant get him out of my head!
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (17 February 2009):
 the grass is greener on the other side.
you are bored with your marraige and everyday life.
How about spicing up your marraige with date night and reconnecting again. Three kids can make tiresome. You can fall in love with your husband all over again if you give yourself time together. To get rid of the feelings for your ex, just tell yourself they are not real. You are remembering the good stuff, but what about why you guys broke up.
Having coffee is dangerous. You have feelings for him and you are married. You might act out on it so you can bring excitment to your life. However, you could be hurting your husband. That's how it all starts...and innocent coffee meeting. You say your husband is fabulous. Do you really want to lose that? that might be the biggest regret. Is he more fabulous than your ex? i think you like your first love cause it brings you back to being young and innocent before all the responsibilities of being an adult got in the way
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reader, loving arms +, writes (17 February 2009):
having 3 young children can make it difficult to see what you and your husband have. My advice to you is to let him know you are worried about loosing yourselves to becoming 'parents' with no time for just being two people happy and in love. Maybe you could start going out together or beter still arrange to have some special time away if you have family who can care for the children. I know how your life as a person in your own right can become lost when you are a mother and a wife. Good luck mate, your ex is your ex for a reason just keep remebering that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2009): Hi
Nice to hear your loyalty.
You can't get him out of your head! you could question where your husband is? head, heart, soul, life,remember excitement does not always lead us to our soul mates....maybe we do not even recognize our soul mates because we get bogged down with everyday mundane living.
Only you can decide, but one coffee could change every body's life......
sorry i can not advise you because you already know what the outcome would be.....your choice.
I do wish you well what ever choice you make.
via con dios.
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