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*heskieswerefilled
writes:My boyfriend and I broke up almost 3 months agoWe had a crazy break up- hate eachother one minute/ love the next. He eventually asked me to be friends so I agree after much hesitation. So we hung out, had sex- sleepovers. That eventually stoped, because I stoped it, after he told me he wasn't sure if we could be together. He did tell me when I talked to him that he still loved me. This was the end of Januaray. Anyways, I started trying to ignore/avoid him for a while. After a week and a half of doing so he noticed. My ex boyfriend; came up to me and started talking to me again. I blew him off, because I was upset with him. Later that night I texted him, and he started being a jerk off to me. So I stoped talking to him again for another week then he calls me to check up on me, telling me I should be staying out of trouble and all of this. So I continue to stop talking to him untill today. I left him a note at his work this past weekend. (I go to his work because its across the street from my house, and I was in there with my dad, because my dads his boss- so I snuck a secret note into a dresser me and him made together) It didn't say anything lovey dovey- he finished the dresser with out me, and I said it looked nice and called him DORKUS because that's what I always call him and put a smiley face. Needless to say, I told him about it and he was excited. He's been texting and calling me all day, called me for no reason again. It is also kind of crazy because he stoped being close with my dad after we broke up, but now all of a sudden hes started to get close with my dad again. My ex even talks to my dad about me. He also used to hang out with my brother; because of me. When we broke up they hung out but then my ex stoped calling my brother but lately he has also been calling my brother again asking him to hang out. So I'm confused what he is doing. I've heard from one of his closest friends that he still loves me alot, and that I shouldn't give up on him. Well there is this girl who has been a problem. She has a good reputation for STEALING girls boyfriends (how? IDK she's really ugly and I 'm not even saying that, she is DEAD ugly)- then blowing them off when she gets them to like her. The crazy thing is. she flirts with every guy yet, she has never dated anyone EVER, and has had sex once before. Everyone in our town thinks shes a lesbian. She's a flirty, tom boy boy, shes one of the guys everyone always says. Anyways, I heard that she won't leave him alone; that she isn't given him space and always invites her self. His friend who told me that he still loves me, and about this other girl, Asked my ex boyfriend the other night if him and that girl were and a item, and my ex said no. I have heard of my ex boyfriend and this girl having sex- and That he was completly trashed but I'm not for sure if he did or not. ANYWAYS, what should I do? What do you think? I mean he's not using me for sex we haven't had sex in three weeks, and he doesn't ask me for it anymore because I told him it wasn't like that. I know for a FACT that he has only has sex with this girl ONCE and that was it- his best friend told me ( AND NO HE WOULDNT LIE, he's wants me and him to date again.) I'm all around confused, if my ex boyfriend still loves me and is scared with it all, should I just give it more time? What?
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reader, LaStrella +, writes (17 January 2010):
It seems as if you are making excuses for him by saying that he was trashed or that he only slept with that one girl. It seems that you are trying to find reasons in your mind to excuse his actions to make them okay. Are his actions really okay with you? Although,the two of you are not and were not an item when he slept with her. So really he was free and is free to do as he pleases, just as you are free to do so too.If he does want you back as his girlfriend, are you willing to let that go and not throw it in his face in the future? Will you be able to trust him? Do you just want him back now because you know that he has slept with someone else and isn't asking you for it anymore? Maybe if you were dating someone else you wouldn't feel as you do. Maybe you wouldn't even care.Just give yourself time to figure out what you want out of a relationship and what you should do. Don't rush into anything and find later that you made a wrong decision. Good Luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2009): I think you should go find you another boyfriend because if he really loved you ya,ll wouldn't of broken up and he wouldn't of slept with the girl.
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reader, theskieswerefilled +, writes (16 February 2009):
theskieswerefilled is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThis is not an update but I wanted to make it clear that at the end where I said about him having sex with other girls. I meant, that I know he has not had sex with any other girls- besides MAYBE that one girl.
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