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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been in a long term relationship with John for 4 years. We have had a lot of ups and downs throughout this time and many guys have liked me and tried to get me to leave him, but i always stayed. I feel as if John and I have nothing in common... I want to travel and work overseas and enjoy my life, and he is more practical and wants to stay in one place because he is content it having a stable life. One day online on msn someone I don't know started talking to me and we started talking regularly. I added him on facebook and he seems to be a pretty decent person, who is real :P but the more we talk i feel as if he is everything i want in a person. He tells me how he is, yeah he talks a lot online but he doesn't talk much in real life and maybe one day I will meet him, he made me realise what I am missing out in life as he wants to travel as well. I just need help. I don't know whether to leave John... he has never done anything wrong.. he is the most perfect reliable sweet guy even thought we fight a lot a lot a lot... but he doesn't have the same goals in life as me. It hurts and i don't know what to do... Stay with him or go meet my online friend who makes me happier than anything in the entire world. I just need some advice :(
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reader, Ven  +, writes (17 October 2010):
Alright sweetheart, I really feel for you in this situation. And I'm sorry, but here comes the truth:
You are dating John. Period. Nothing else should matter. Now, if John makes you happy then stay with him and cut out the talking to hunks behind his back. If he doesn't make you happy, then you need to deal with him and not live out fantasies with other guys. To do these kinds of things behind John's back is disrespectful to the man you said has done nothing wrong.
Also, be careful meeting guys online: somehow the internet makes us all look and sound more impressive than we really are.
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