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writes:Can a guy remain friends with a girl who gives him oral sex? How does he control his emotions around her, or is this different than making real love? OK, you guys out there, let's have it!!!
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reader, lovehate  +, writes (7 May 2008):
 Girls can come attached after a while. Believe me i have many friends who have gone into 'FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS', includinng me and have come out hurt. Guys can 'disengage' when having a relationship based on only sex.
So yes, a guy can remain friends with a girl who gives him what he wants, because he's getting what he wants without having to do the work of being in a relationship.
BUT BE CAREFUL. Good Luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): If one is friends with a guy and one is giving him oral sex...I will say females are more likely to 'engage' their heart and emotions with any act of sex. A good amount of males have this ability to not 'engage' their emotions too readily, when it comes to sex. So yes, a guy can remain friends with a female who gives him what he wants, because he's getting what he wants without having to do the work of being in a relationship.
So if he keeps coming back for oral sex and shows no interest in having a dating relationship with the female..I would tell her to get ahold of her brains, her self-pride and stop doing that as she is being disrespectfully used for sexual favors.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008): This is a tough question. Guy's do appreciate affection from a girl, and from any girl it leaves a lasting special place in there heart for them. When a girl is willing to give oral or intercourse, this is at the top for intimacy; it means so much more then a woman thinks. We hear women complain that all men have on their minds is sex, but it is very special, and is hard to explain.
I remember seeing a western movie where the bad guy (actually good) is hurt or becomes very sick, and a woman cares for him back to health. Another woman tells her that if she does this nurturing, she will have a man for life. In the case of if you break it you own it, this becomes you fix it it becomes attached to you like an embiblical cord.
For your question, it is very possible to remain friends, even after the act is stopped. But it takes special skills in communication. If he doesn't have someone else in his life, he will revert back to this moment and will want it.
Now I've know women who are similar to men as described above when they've received something that was special to them, so special in their mind, that they come back for more. So irrelvant to the act, whether oral, intercourse, cleaning laundry, cooking, or just intimate conversation, were all human and have similar needs, and when these needs are met by someone, we will begin to feel an attachment with them.
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