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writes:Hi all,I am 24, still a virgin. As I have moderately high sex drive and do not want to visit hookers or embark on one-night stands, I usually use sex toys (such as the Fleshlight) for masturbation purposes as I am kinda sick of using my hands, and they led to abrasion sometimes.Usually, I would clamp the Fleshlight between a pillow and a rolled-up blanket, then proceed by thrusting to mimic the act of sex, as well as try to build up my stamina in preparation of the real thing. Is this going to help? I did notice slight improvements in my stamina and technique from time to time.Also, a couple of my female friends showed disapproval when I told them that I use sexual aids for masturbation. Both cited reasons that this method is unhealthy, and one of them it is more beneficial for a guy to ejaculate inside a real vagina as the vagina somehow has certain protective effects over the penis due to its temperature (which I don't really get it).What's your opinion on this? Any response will be welcomed.Devil Crazy
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2008): Don't worry about blowing your load too fast.
Unless you get performance anxiety or you aren't attracted to the girl, you WILL blow it too fast the first time. (Probably at least the first dozen times.)
Just see that the first blown load is followed by one or two more during that sexual session that take a little longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008): Trust me mate - when you eventually get yourself a woman it'll bear no resemblance to your toy whatsoever. It'll be warm and moist, you'll have the toys that God put on a woman's body to play with, and you'll be so excited I'd be very surprised if you'll last more than about 20 seconds no matter how much you've practiced with your toy or your hand!
If you get yourself the Malayan woman I mentioned earlier, and tell her you're a virgin, she won't wash your bits in Dettol, get you dressed and throw you out the minute you squirt your dirt and shout "Next!", but will act like a real loving woman rather than a prostitute by cuddling you and getting you all fired up and ready to give her a second helping.
There ain't nuthin' like the real thing!
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reader, Devil Crazy +, writes (20 April 2008):
Devil Crazy is verified as being by the original poster of the question OK I mainly use my Fleshlight to improve my stamina, 'cos I read through reviews that it does help in that respect. Don't wanna blow my load in 5 seconds when I have my first time do I? LOL~
And yeah, I do understand that Fleshlight isn't equivalent to a girl. And I am not overly obsessed with it. Hahaha. It just helps me to relieve myself in times of 'need', that's all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): Talking of blow-up dolls, I remember one of the lads on our messdeck was sent one for his birthday by his brother. He got fed up with this thing taking up half the space in his pit so he rented the bloody thing out!
Now, I don't know how familiar you lot are with these things, but I can tell you - being PVC they don't half squeak. I'll leave the rest to your imagination. 30 blokes and a blow-up doll.
Happy days.
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (19 April 2008):
 lol you guys are funny.
i dont think its THAT weird. i mean girls use dildos right? but whats a bit concerning is that you think its gonna make you better at sex with a girl. umm...no. us girls need a little bit more attention that being shoved between a pillow and a blanket and boinked!
theres a LITTLE bit more to pleasing a woman than what you're getting up to with your fleshlight. watch that loversguide thing, thats like a sex tutorial with real people and everything! ooooh!
don't go to hookers for your first time! thats tragic and depressing lol. These Brit boys are a bad influence ;-)
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (19 April 2008):
 I saw a documentary a few months ago called "Guy and Dolls" on Channel 4. It was about men who purchase these life size dolls to their own specification ie big tits,blonde hair, shaved pussy etc etc, to have sex with and not have real relations with women. One guy even used to drive around town with his down, which I thought took it to the extreme.
I absolutely fell off the sofa laughing, seeing these guys treating them as if they were human.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): Skill? In Singapore? Not necessary!
Just look for one of those Mercedes fast black taxis where the driver is hawking for business offering 'Nice girl Johnny?' 'Blue movie Johnny?' The Nee Soon 'virgins' were always quite popular! Although I'm not entirely sure which orifice was virginal.
JB is probably your best bet though!
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reader, Devil Crazy +, writes (19 April 2008):
Devil Crazy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha thanks for the response, guess I need to work on my skills in getting a woman. LOL.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (19 April 2008):
 Uncle Phil.. you're a man after my own heart.. lol
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): ..... and don't forget to mention that you're a 'Cherry Boy' and you'll get really special treatment, I promise you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): Oh Dear!
Well, I've seen 'em advertised but never had the need to use one, so I can't speak from experience.
The first thing that strikes me about this is that when using a fleshlight instead of the real thing, you don't have any tits to play with or suck on, no arse to squeeze and hang on to, and you have to do all the work, which would be a real downer for me.
Having myself used hookers in Singapore on a fairly regular basis quite some time ago, I can tell you that they have got to be far better than any toy. I'd recommend using those of Malayan descent, who have an innate desire to please their clients, take pride in their work and give extremely good value for money.
There are some very good ones in Johore Bahru as well, and are well worth the journey across the causeway. Is the 'Tokyo Nights Bar' still there? That establishment used to be worth a visit.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (19 April 2008):
anonymous, - i can hear the cockney accent in your typing.. loli hear if you heat up a watermelon and carve yourself out a glory hole thats good too....Yeah...ok , a quick crach course to meeting/screwing women.#1. Do not tell the women you are interested in that you plook a sex toy between your pillows everynight.Surprisingly They don't find this a turn on.#2. using a Fleshlight sex toy is not going to make you better in the sack, in fact it'll just make you stick it in, wiggle it about and then you're done.just like that shampoo, Wash and go.#3. "one of them it is more beneficial for a guy to ejaculate inside a real vagina as the vagina somehow has certain protective effects over the penis due to its temperature"a vagina isn't like a powerup in Doom or Quake where you stick you dick in a vagina and your health goes +100 and you get +25 stamina.Honestly? i think you NEED a one night stand. where you never see the person again.anyone who has been laid ( or at least can remember getting laid) will get my meaning.* nudge nudge* *wink wink*
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): This IS unhealthy! Get you a real woman! Ask one of the females that you have confided in....tell them of your concerns....maybe one of them will give you a lesson. Maybe one of them will take pleasure in showing you the ropes. YES! truly confide in them and tell them this......your "FIRST" time will determine your outlook on how to treat a woman...forever!Tell them to school you in the ways to make love to a woman!Tell them to show you how to please and make love to a woman
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): Look mate, you need to get a woman and feel the real thing! its not healthy to be thinking like that!
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