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anonymous
writes:Hi i was like this girl at school but im a catholic and she's muslim is it ok if i ask her out and she said yes ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012): I'm in the exact same position, i love this girl like mad. She sadly turned be down because of her religion and tbh i respect her decision. I hope when were older things might change but if this girl would ever go out with me, wow would i be happy! :)
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reader, aavon82 +, writes (14 June 2012):
Speaking from personal experience, seeing someone from a different religious background can be difficult. My father was Jewish and my mother is Christian and whilst neither of them were religious, certain members of their respective families were and constantly sought to drive a wedge between them. Some of my dad's family even refused to go to the wedding, as they were completely against him marrying outside of his faith. My parents eventually divorced and I'm sure the pressure being put on them by their families was a factor in this. I am not saying that this will definitely happen to you, nor am I being negative,it's just that religious beliefs run deep and affect peoples'choices, particularly where relationships are concerned.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2012): Check out whether she is allowed, with her, and also ask how her parents would see it. If it's fine with them, go ahead, and if it isn't you could save yourself a lot of heartache.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (14 June 2012):
Your question is a tricky one. Why? Because it will depend on not only what her religion teaches, but how strictly she and her family observe their religion. Consider Catholics for example: they are prohibited from sex before marriage, or even living together before marriage, but plenty of Catholics do not follow these restrictions. I believe that, in general, Muslim women cannot marry non-Muslim men, so I’d assume that this is true of just dating as well. But it depends: just like there are many different Christian groups, there are different branches of Islam too. So, basically, the only advice I can give you is to just ask her. The worst that can happen is that she’ll say no. In that sense, asking the Muslim girl out is no different to asking any other girl out.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (14 June 2012):
 I doubt that generally a Muslim girl in your age range would be allowed to date to begin with, so much less to date a Catholic . But, it all depends from her family and environment, theirs may be relatively / completely laical and westernized, who knows.
Anyway, there's no harm in asking- respectfully. Just don't try and convince her to do stuff behind her parents' back, it's not morally right, and could also land her into a LOT of trouble.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (14 June 2012):
Hi there.
There are two different customs here, and if you get too deeply involved with her, there may be issues down the track from her family.
They would naturally want their Muslim daughter to be going out with a Muslim boy, no doubt.
There is nothing to stop you being friends with her though.
Her family will probably be very protective towards their daughter, once they know she is seeing a boy from a western culture.
Just be very careful, as the two cultures are so very different.
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