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writes:Hi, I came on wayyyy too strong with this girl and really regret it now as she did like me but I scared her off we got on really well too......Anyway I recently asked her to go out to lunch to catch up but no reply. Admittidly I still really like her and want something else, but I am happy with just being her friend. Is there anything I can say something to her explaning that I just want to be her friend?I have been told that as I still like her then I should tell her and tell her that I understand I came on too strong.
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reader, jayoul  +, writes (10 May 2008):
Hello, If I were you I would give this girl space for awhile and let her settle. Send her a nice card and inside write down that your sorry about comming on so strong and that you acted badly and that you want to be freinds ... that you cherish this freindship. Thats it .. leave it and wait for her to come to you. Could take time, she may not comeback ... I'm in a similer situation now infact but its ALLOT more complicated as the girl has much on her plate and has had lots of hurdles in her life to jump over. Take this as experience aswell and nextime dont go in as strong. Learn and than modify what you have learned and become better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008):
Making mistakes is all part of the experience of dating and relationships, try not to beat yourself up over it.
There will be plenty of other girls that come along, and you've learnt now not to be so intense. I'm not sure what your relationship is with this girl, and how much your scared her off, but I'm sure it won't hurt to ask her if she wants to hang out and be friends. But if she says no, or looks like she isn't interested, then I think it would be best to put this down as a mistake and leave her alone.
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