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writes: Im really frustrated in my head at the moment and im really hoping you can help.I have been with my bf for a little while, but recently he has been really frustrating me. everything he does gets on my nerves and he makes racist or stupid remarks which really wind me up.anyway so part of the time i feel like it has to be over, then the other half of the time im really happy. he sometimes makes me really happyso i dont know what to do?i also get really frustrated because i live an hour away on the train and its always me that has to go and see him and then all he does is play on his playstation or play on his guitar then we have sex then the next day i go home!and he has a really good time in bedbut it doesnt really do alot for mehe cant even make me wet anymore (sorry to be graphic)i just dont know what to do i dont want to throw all of it away and then regret it cos there are good bits too please help Reply to this Question
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reader, brooke5426  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 Every relationship has good bits. I think you should get shot of him and find someone else who will give you all the good parts and none (or a hell of a lot less) of the bad parts. It sounds like your attraction to him has gone straight out the window but you're staying with him cos its what you know and you dont know what will happen or who you'll be with if you leave. Thats not the best reason to be with someone. You sound like a nice girl and i think you could do a lot better than him.
Brooke
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reader, Janis  +, writes (27 April 2008):
Have you ever tried talking to him about this ? Or asked him why he makes these remarks. If you dont tell him it gets on your nerves, he'll just continue beacause it seems ok.
No relationship is perfect but communication is the key to a lot of problems.
And when it comes to sex, try taking the initiative of something new that really makes YOU horny ! Or make the suggestion so he has the feeling it was his idea...
I hope this helps you a bit.
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reader, core_confusion +, writes (27 April 2008):
 I think to be fair you have hinted at the answer here already. If there is nothing that ties you together and things aren't right then I think that maybe you should move on. If you are with the right person, it's very rarely plain sailing but certainly shouldnt be as bad as this. From what you say about the racism and stupid comments I think that your BF may be a little immature. All relationships shuld be fulfulling for both partners and if you are not getting what you want then that is not fair on you.
I think that the first think I would suggest is to talk to him about how you are feeling and give him a chance to make a difference. If that doesnt work then maybe you need to be strong and walk away. I'm sure there are better men out there.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do.
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