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writes:Hi.I was wondering do you think the calling your friends pet names (baby, sweetie, honey etc) destorys the intimacy of a relationship and or the meaning of the words? Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Personally, I save the pet names for a more intimate type of relationship one would have with the opposite sex.
In my opinion, calling friends pet names all the time can get annoying and a loss of identity. When you say sweetie, honey to your friends, they're not going to know who you're talking to.
Now if you're a Southern belle who was raised by your mother to call everyone sweetie, honey to the point of where it's as common as using the word "the" then I can understand.
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reader, Sings_alot_chicky +, writes (12 April 2011):
 I actually dont see the point of nick names or pet names..... I just recently started calling my friends by them and i ve known them for years...(my friend got me doing it).... but i dont see the big deal about them...ive never called any of my bfs by one....so i dont see why it would destroy it...i say its fine and go for it!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 If there was a meaning of the word "baby" it would be infant, which clearly the person called such a name isn't. So no, I do not think it destroys the intimacy of it or the word itself as it is already being used for anything from lovers to pets.
Pet names do create an intimate zone, but then again friends are allowed to be intimate in a certain way. Friends often aren't scared of being naked around each other, many friends kiss (some even make out for fun), they talk about intimate things such as boyfriend and girlfriend troubles, talk about sex, they already are intimate!
Some over use words or use the words for everything and anything. But then again that's just the way they are and you will find other ways to create intimacy than through the use of those words.
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reader, shawncaff +, writes (12 April 2011):
 It's like everything else: if you overuse them or use them when you don't mean them, they lose their meaning. Then when you do need them, they will sound hollow.
For example, if you call everyone "darling" or "my love" then when you really meet someone whom you love, your words won't sound authentic. It's the same with physical affection too: if you are loose with your hugs, kisses, etc., then it won't mean very much when you really want to express your love in a physical way.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Well, yes, a bit.
For instance, in Rome they have this habit of calling everybody "amo'" -short for " amore ", love- it's a cutesy thing but more than cute I find it irritating, it's a fake, superficial intimacy that means nothing and takes something off a beautiful word.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (12 April 2011):
 only if you over use them. Save them for a time when their needed like:
Your friend is in tears because she/he broke up with her bf/gf.
You would then say somethig like "oh honey really he wasn't worth it. Cheer up, ill take you shopping" or something to that affect.
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