A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I met this guy two months back and we were close friends but i knew deep down that he is not going to stay as my friend for long because i saw in his eyes that he was inlove with me. the problem with all this is that i ussually told him about my boyfriend ,how inlove we are and all that but to him that did not stop him from asking me out. we started dating taking things slowlly and all of a sudden he started telling me that he does not like it when i'm spending much time with my friend(guys) and asked me to stop spending time with them because he is jelours...i told him that what he is asking from is not that simple and mite be impossible because those guys are really close with me..after a while he saw me with one of my friends and he got mad at me , stopped talking to me and i call him he was not responding to any of my calls.. this took around 2 weeks and i kept begging him but nothing..i talked to my sister about this asking for her help because i missed the guy soo bad,she decided to call him and ask him to come to our room and she locked us in there telling us to sort things out..we started talking about this and things went well , he forgave me..the problem i have now is that i have a lot of questions.. like what if he did not forgive me really? maybe i was nagging him and he decided to agry to everthing i was saying because he wanted to use me since i'm so into him?i don't know but i don't feel like he still loves me...i told him that and asked him if we should end things or stop making favours for each other and he refused and i know that that is not what i really want but i had to do it......what should i do really? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): The question is not whether he has forgiven you. You did nothing wrong by hanging out with a guy friend. It sounds like this guy is jealous and possessive and not good at controlling his angry impulses, and a long-term relationship with this guy, if he continues like this, would probably be dangerous for you at worst, and difficult at best. He has no right to tell you to stop spending time with guy friends, especially only after 2 months of knowing you! The fact that he didn't respect that you had a boyfriend before, also shows that he is only thinking of himself and what he wants. These are big warning signs.
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