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writes:Ok, so here is the situation. 4 weeks ago i started to take this course in school and there is this sweet and cute girl i like. We always sit together since the second week of class (we have 1 class per week so only see her once a week). She caught my eyes since the beginning so on the second class i made the move and sit next to her so i could get to know her and since then we have always sit together. We have good conversations in class and sometimes she picks on me with a cute smile or if i say something funny in class she pushes her elbow against me. I can tell she is into me and i'm sure she knows i'm into her. Here is the thing, last class as we always walk into the parking lot together i was about to ask for her number when she mentioned i should give her my number in case she had a question about the homework. So I said you know, you should give me your number too and we can get together and study, so you gave me her number. 2 days after i called her but got her voice mail and i left a message just saying that i was giving her a call to see how she was doing, how was her day at work and that if you wanted we could get together to study for next class but its been 2 days and she wasn't reply. Question is, did i do something wrong? called to soon? or is she testing me?. What are your thoughts? Thanks!
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reader, Speedy27 +, writes (17 March 2011):
Speedy27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey! thank you Lizbeth and Denise for the responses :). So I saw her in class yesterday, when i walked in the classroom she was already there so i went ahead and sit next to her as usual. I said hi and asked how she was, she was sick yesterday and noticed her a bit down like sad but maybe she was just not feeling well. After this short conversation we started looking at the lesson for the day, she seemed a bit nervous too, touched her hair often and we didnt talk as much as before ( i dont know if it was because the conversation in the weekend), Then the professor walked in to his desk. While he was getting to start the class, she asked me how was my weekend and stuff, i replied to her and she just said cool. After that we started the lecture and only spoke about related class things after. At the end of the class i put away my books and got up to leave, i told her i wish she felt better and to drink lots of water. She just replied she hope she felt better too. Then i say bye to other classmates and started walking to my car. This time as i walked away she didn't follow or i didn't wait for her. I felt bad not doing so, i felt like i got stabbed in the heart. i like this girl and as she has mentioned on the weekend she said she was kinda seeing someone else so maybe i was being careful not to get hurt much as she gives me signs she likes me in class. Did i do the right thing not waiting for her yesterday? i think i could still walk with her to the parking lot but not as often so i dont get too used to her and liking her much than what. What can I do?
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reader, LizBeth  +, writes (15 March 2011):
It sounds to me like she is a flirt. That isn't a bad thing as long as you realize that this is what she is. She has clearly said that she is "kind of seeing someone." I would take this as a sign that she is taken and that you need to look elsewhere if you're considering a girlfriend. This doesn't mean you need to quit flirting with her, just that you need to know she isn't serious about you. There is a possibility that she is playing with you. What I mean is that she may be keeping you in the line up in case the person she is "kind of" seeing goes by the wayside.
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reader, Speedy27 +, writes (14 March 2011):
Speedy27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I heard back from this girl today, she sent me a text. She was saying that it was a busy weekend for her which i understand and that was sorry for getting back to me late and that she was starting to study and do her homework and told me to wish her luck ( with an lol at the end ). I replied to her just saying not to worry since i figured she was busy and wishing her luck and also letting her know she could give me a call or text if she needed help with it. After I was done my homework 2 hours later i sent her a text. I said that it wasn't that hard and asked how did you do. She sent a message back saying that she was just starting since a friend stop by. So i decided to pick on her. I sent her a message back saying that if i had to book an appointment in advance if i wanted to hang out with her since she was a busy and popular girl. She replied saying exactly this: well lol i'm pretty busy yes but wouldn't say popular lol! but i'm kinda seeing someone who probably wouldn't like it for me to hang out lol but hey i'm happy to assist with...( the name of the subject we are studying ), not that i could be much help. I'm a bit confused since in class she flirts with me and the last class we had she asked for my number when i was about to ask for hers. Is she playing games with me? what can I do in this situation?
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reader, Speedy27 +, writes (14 March 2011):
Speedy27 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I heard back from that girl today and she said that she was sorry for getting back to me late, she said was a busy weekend for her which i understand and didn't make a big deal of it. I heard back from her by text message so we exchanged a few text taking about normal things then I was picking up on her, saying that if i had to make an appointment in advance if i wanted to hang out with her ( in a funny way ) since she was a busy and popular girl as she said she kept having friends stopping by her place to visit while we were texting. This is what she replied: well lol im pretty busy yes but i wouldn't say popular lol! but i'm kinda seeing someone who would probably wouldn't like it for me to hang out lol! but hey i'm happy to assist with ......( the subject we are taking together) not that i could be much help....Is she playing games with me? or trying to be hard to get?, totally confuses me. When we are in class she gives me signs that she likes me. What can i do?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (14 March 2011):
 No, you didn't do anything wrong! Sounds as if she likes you too - and its ONLY been two days - RELAX. You'll probably hear from her sooner or later - and if you don't why then you'll see her at the next class.
Don't worry, it will be alright!
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