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writes:I am grateful for any help I get here. I broke up with an very attractive and popular guy here on campus because I know that he was seeing other women when he was seeing me. He is continuing to see a few women at the same time and I am glad to be rid. There has been a fallout in that I am getting other women asking me out for coffee and or drinks and I can tell they are fishing for info. I also seeing them blatantly flirting with him in front of me. I would imagine that they are women he has been with recently and they are trying to confirm my status with him. I do suspect he has a level of respect for me and probably would say nothing. I think it is his doing for being a cheat and they are being led down the path but I just want to move on. Any tips on how to handle this tricky but not over the top situation much appreciated.
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reader, leonard j, Douglas  +, writes (24 December 2007):
What goes on, or went on, between two people is their own business,and something that needn't be bandyed about by so called friends. Let them find out what kind of person he is,but don't badmouth him,as he'll cut his own sexual throat in the lond-run.
Have a nice Christmas.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (24 December 2007):
 First of all, let me commend you on standing your own ground. Leaving him was the right thing to do.
As to how to handle the situation, I think I wouldn't tell anyone unless they directly asked about it. I mean, I don't see a reason to talk about my personal life unless someone who is close to me is asking. I wouldn't think it's a stranger's business whether I am seeing someone or not.
Maybe you are right and they are fishing for info. Let them do if that's what they want. You've been smart to leave him in the past, and now you don't have to care about what he does or doesn't do.
Take care. By the way, Merry Christmas.
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