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writes:just looking for a bit of help. Im 18, and i've just broken up with my first serious boyfriend (together 6 months). I thought everything was perfect so its very out of the blue that he decided to split up with me as i wasnt expecting it at all. The pain is so intense i just dont know what to do with myself. How do you heal a broken heart?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 December 2012):
 You go one day at a time.
give yourself enough time (no more than 6 weeks) to cry and be miserable about it. eat what you want, cry when you need to... write long long letters that you never send.
after 6 weeks you have to get on with the real world again
but you won't be totally healed for a few months...
you need to get on with living your life as best you can as soon as you can... work, school, friends, family, going out and being busy....
one day in a few months I bet you will lay your head down at night to go to sleep and realize that it's the first time you have thought about him all day. that's when you know you are just about healed.
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reader, Serpico +, writes (17 December 2012):
Trust me, "the world is going to end" pain at age 20 becomes "God why did I even let that bother me" pain at age 30.
My advice to you is move on and go out w someone else asap. You will regret wallowing for so long later. Its just wasted time.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (17 December 2012):
 Never cry over someone who wont cry over you. Someone had once told me that you will have your heart broken again and again before you find the right person. I know its not very comforting to hear now but it jut shows that you have company. Most of us have had our hearts smashed to smithereens before we managed to stand back up again and love again, like we'd never been hurt. You too will do the same.
If he broke up with you, then it entirely his loss. Don't look back and don't ever beg or cry and ask him to take you back. Be strong, remember that it hurts now because its still very fresh but it'll get better. It has to, that's how life is. This too shall pass.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (17 December 2012):
 This is going to sound so terrible and cliche but....TIME HEALS ALL. I was once cheated on by the man I lived with and was supposed to be getting married to. Talk about a punch to the gut. I threw him out of my house and he shacked up with the skank. After about 3 months, I was fine and he and the skank were over. He was broke and having problems at work while I had a new job and was finally seeing all the pain that I was spared by not being married to an apparent cheater. I don't even think about him anymore except when I shudder to think if I was still with that jerk. If this guy want to leave all you can do is let him. DO NOT CALL, TEXT, or beg him to tell you why he is leaving or try and convince him not to go. Not only does this fail but it leaves you looking and feeling pathetic later. Be strong and after some time it will be ok to move on. He may even notice how you are not chasing him and think maybe he made a mistake but most likely by the time that this happens, you will not want him anymore even though this is hard to believe right now. Trust me, I am right
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