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writes: I wanted to break up with my girlfriend for a while. I went to my ex (who is was first my gf) for advice tips for breaking up (nicely) and she told to call my gf. I called my girlfriend to ask her for a ride home. When she got to the house my ex told her come then it happened that my ex jumped on me and starting making out with me. My girl saw me and thinks I was cheating on her (she dumped me) but I'm not. Now no girls will go out with me because they're afraid I might cheat on them. I wanted to break up with her the decent way. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2008): explain to your ex girlfriend what really happened in an email..your ex sounds like she had a game plan and didnt really want to "help" at all..
tell her what she did was wrong and you need time away from her..for now just try to make a friendship with your ex gf again. she must feel very hurt.
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reader, fluffyshoes  +, writes (29 October 2008):
I think to be honest by the way your ex acted she still has feelings for you and wanted to hurt your girlfriend. She knew the situation and had given advice on the best way to break up nicely with someone and tehn deliberately threw a spanner in the works.My partner is friends with a lady he was with for many years when he was quite young but they have been friends for nearly 20 years. She is my friend too and they have a lot of affection for each other which is understandable and I respect but they are in no way attracted to each other anymore. She acknowldeges me and respects me as his parnter, and is very postive about us being together. This is only possible as we are all quite at home with our feelings on the matter.If your ex still has feelings for you she may not be the best place to turn to for advice as she has her own interests in mind, which is clear by her actions.She has hurt you and the woman whose feelings you were trying to protect by ending things amicably I would think carefully about friendship wit her until she and you have resolved any remaining feelings which may still be there.I can see why other girls would want to prevent themselves getting hurt, but it is sad that you wanted to do the right thing and your ex made it so difficult for everyone. You can explain your side of the story and be honest, I think the key may be explaining to your girlfriend who saw you kissing your ex what happened and hope she believes your side of events. She obviously trusted you to be around your ex as she came to pick you up there and what she saw damaged her trust and hurt her feelings. All you can do with a new girlfriend is be honest and learn that ex-partners are great friends but only if friendship is all they want.Good luck
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reader, jaime90  +, writes (29 October 2008):
 That girl is not your friend. Stop talking to her. She is stupid and inconsiderate, and might i add that because you went along with it you were pretty stupid and mean to your girl too.
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