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writes:I am dating a very wonderful guy who I have been with 8 months. At first everything was great and his family liked me. Then, things got messy between me and the guy and we had several arguments and both said mean very hurtful things. We got back together after being broken up about a month . We've solved most of our problems and are overall doing great! I'm very happy about this because I love him and know we can make it through anything. The problem is, his family hates me. We all have facebook accounts (including his mom,brother,and sister). Ever since we even started talking again,even before we were back together, his family started saying lots of mean things about me on his Facebook and even threatening to beat me and making jokes like "let's get a body bag". My boyfriend has confronted his family several times and it didn't stop. At first it was his sister saying all the bad things then the entire family got involved. It got to the point that he deleted his sister because everytime I would say anything to him she'd harrass me. I completely ignored everything until today. His mom said something on his status about me and I replied in a nice way. Then she got offeneded and started saying crap again. So I stood up for myself and told her if she cares about her son so much why is she jeapordizing their relationship. Then his brother cussed me out and she said a lot of mean things about me including calling me a bad mother. Then she called my boyfriend and they got in a big fight and now his family hates him! I do not want my boyfriend to have to choose family or me. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): ~UNFRICKENBELIEVABLE~
This is one thing I simply cannot relate to and would never tolerate and I know it has a lot to do with the way my family deals with family member relationships...WE MIND OUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS!
Families like that turn my gut...and the fact is they are purely childish, petty and pathetic!
~TO EACH HIS OWN~
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all. I did say some mean things to him and dated someone else during the breakup. They only see what I did wrong. None of them take into consideration that we BOTH messed up first time around and we BOTH apologized. I found out today I'm not the only girlfriend that's been harassed by them. Its happened before except for it was his brothers girlfriend. Although his mom hasn't liked me from the beginning because I had a baby before I met her son. Either way, thank you all for the advice. Ill let you know if it ever gets better.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (15 December 2010):
 Why does his family hate you? There has to be a reason for them to not like you to the point of "let's get a body bag." So, what is it?
Don't make him choose his family or you. Have you tried talking to them on an adult level? Letting them hear your side?
THey all sound very immature, so perhaps talking to them isn't the best approach if they can't have the maturity level of at least a 12 year old then I think you are wasting your time.
I would ask my bf to tell them that he is an adult and will date who he pleases and they need to get out of his business or he will no longer talk to them or something drastic like that. It usually works.
Good luck sweetie, let me know how it goes.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 December 2010):
 Either his family is extremely crazy and have nothing better to do with their time other than harassing you. Or something went on during this messy break-up to make them hate you. In which I'm wondering if it's the latter.
If this "Facebook fighting" is really getting to you and they're harassing you that bad. Then delete your account, it ends there. If they have made that bad of threats to you, then you should have already reported it to the police.
Your boyfriend isn't going to change their minds about you, so he's going to have to do his best to keep his home and love life separate.
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