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30-35,
anonymous
writes:i feel that my bf daughter is disrespectful to me. when alone with me she will misbehave and as soon as anyone else is around act like an angel e.g. Screaming and running away when i am dressing her, lying down when i am feeding her and tell her to sit up so she doesnt choke. The other day i got so overwhelmed by it i broke down. She was screaming and pretending i hurt while brushing her hair but i hadnt yet touched her. Then bf comes in angry at me and i left the room and broke down. She doesnt listen to me at all. All my bf says is she is a baby she doesnt know, but i cant agree.He doesnt seem to care and i cant ever say she is naughty to me or he gets angry at me. He doesnt get her to apologise.he has a 2 door car so when we get out i will push my seat forward to get her out the back and every time she will hold onto the seat so i cant and wait till he gets her out.I have never been mean to her, i am not jealous i just want to be respected. I often wonder if the mother is telling her to disrespect me. How do i get my bf to get her to respect me? he always lets her get away with being naughty and Its driving me crazy! Should i let her act to me this way? What can i do so she stops?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (14 April 2010):
Bad news. You're not her mother. Even a baby can tell the difference, and I think she knows the difference. It could very well be the mother telling to play up a bit, or it could just be that she's jealous. The problem is she is not yours to discipline, and though you're being a Saint feeding her and looking after her, again, it's not your job. This is your boyfriend's job. It's clear he won't do anything to even understand her behaviour, let alone check it, so I think you need to make a decision. You are between 18 and 21, and that is very young to be taking on someone else's child. Especially if you don't get on with it. It isn't your fault. It's not really hers. It's your boyfriend. He is allowing her to behave this way. And in allowing her to treat you this way, he's not living up to his parental responsibilities, nor is he respecting you. You can't get her to change, and you can't get him to change her because he won't do anything to stop it now. If I were you, I would consider breaking up with him. At this rate it won't last anyway.
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