A
female
age
30-35,
*abyparis
writes:my boyfriend had a crazy ex who pops up at his house and now she's calling my phone and writing me on fb off his pg she hacked into. they havent been together for almost a year. she got him put in jail a few weeks back for something dumb that she made up and im tired of all her pettiness, i love him so much we plan to get married and start a family but i just dnt have time for the little kid games from her. should i continue to be with him or let it go?
View related questions:
in jail Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, babyparis +, writes (4 January 2012):
babyparis is verified as being by the original poster of the question hes making a new pg when he come home and its really easy to hack someone pg trust me!. and he changed his number but when you sit outside someone door waiting for them you bound to see them, duh she came by her self and then came bcak with her younger family memebers and friends the girl she fought will be at court but i just dont think i should leave and stop loving him and when he get another gf shes gonna do the samething to her and its just not his gf its his sisters and guy friends like her own mother told her she need to calm down and move on. she has 2open cases for the samething with someone else. i love him so much i just dont wanna lose him to some dumb a$$ little girl...he stand up for me his sis and his niece she done threatened the whole family i have all the msg etc saved some im good on my end but its just him im worried about when he get home
A
female
reader, maverick494 +, writes (3 January 2012):
Get a restraining order against her. I'm serious. If someone is interfering with your lives in such a way, collect the evidence and file a report. She is invading your privacy, using violence against you, etc.
Hacking someone's fb page isn't easy unless she knew his password or could guess what it is. I am not able to hack a strangers fb unless I know what I'm looking for or if they have an insanely easy password. Simply throwing a password cracking programme at it doesn't cut it anymore, I'm afraid.
So that means that either he's sloppy or she has some serious skills, which I doubt.
Also your boyfriend needs to be tougher against her. He's letting her walk allover him.
Take the jail situation, I still don't get it:
- Why the hell were she and her girlfriends allowed to get in and cause a scene? I would have kicked them out upon arrival.
- Why did this beaten up woman not testify that it was his ex that beat her instead of your bf?
- If the ex fought she would probably have bruises to show for it as most girls don't know how to fight worth a damn. The evidence should be on her hands, forearms.
- interviews with people around her would have pointed out her erratic behavior
- Were you present when this happened?
I'm sorry but for now there are too many holes in the story for me to take it seriously. She could be a serious nutcase, but still, she shouldn't be able to control your lives like that.
If you don't want to leave and you can't get a restraining order, do the following:
- Change his fb's password into something long with capitals, numbers and normal letters.
- If that isn't possible delete your bf off your friend list and put your fb account to "friends only" so she can't reach you. Then put up a message that your bf's account has been hacked.
- Get new locks on the house
- Get your bf's cellphone number changed, etc. Basically cut her off.
But honestly, all of this shouldn't be necessary. That's why I'm doubting the story.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): eh let him go.... I have a hard time believing shes so nuts and nothings going on between them...
...............................
A
female
reader, babyparis +, writes (3 January 2012):
babyparis is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the answers and i understand where yall are coming from but i love him so much it was like love at first site something different from what we normally feel for someone.
we dont plan to get married this yr and the kids wont be anytime soon. we are still having fun in our relationship where we wanna travel and see the world together.
he did let her know what it is between them to over a yr ago. she had done this to his other female friends before me and even troubled his family and friend. everyone told her her to stay away even her own mom but she wont listen.
yes i have the facts right, she it is easy to hack someone pg, trust me... she broke into his house and was fighting one of the females there and told the cops he did (which he didnt) came back with her girlfriends and made a big scene. i dnt know bout leaving in a drop of a hat but if it comes down to it and its the right thing than yes.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2012): Yes you should leave him. It doesn't have to be a permanent break up, but leave him UNTIL he has decided or figured out how to stand up against her for himself, his personal boundaries, and the boundaries of your relationship. Then you can return to him after he has ended the relationship with her for good. Right now their relationship isn't truly ended if she's still interfering in his life and he's allowing it. Their relationship has just reached "phase 2" where they're no longer living together or romantically involved but they are not gone their separate ways yet.
...............................
A
female
reader, maverick494 +, writes (3 January 2012):
Are you sure you have the facts right?
- First of all, hacking something isn't as easy as it sounds. You don't just get access to someone's page.
- How did she get him put into jail? She either must be very smart or he and the police must be very dumb.
- You two have been together less than a year and you already plan to get married and get kids? But at the same time you are able to leave him on the drop of a hat because of her?
Judging from what little you've written I would leave. There's just something fishy about the whole deal, not just his ex.
...............................
|
