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writes:I am having a great relationship even though it is long distance. But he is very caring and loving. He is under terrible work pressure and last night he said he is a bit worried how to cope up with this phase...in coming days he might not be able to talk regularly. He was thus looking for a solution so that we talk daily though not for very long but that time would be the best... meaning he would be fresh and not tired as hell... which he is daily.He said if we talk after few days when he can talk really nicely then those frequent breaks would program him like that and he wont be able to keep track...in the sense that he would lose the rhythm of our talks...and would be a tough phase to get out of...and get back to normal again...It kind of got me thinking... as for me.. even if he is not in touch for a long long time... I dont think I would change the least.. I would still talk the same way coz... we are lovers! and he is that special someone in my life... whose place no one else can take...I just wana know if what he said is normal... or normal with guys... or a normal human behaviour which I shouldnt really think about... I mean I appreciate the fact that he was looking for a solution for this time and work problem creeping into our relatnship... it means he is all considerate but that losing rhythm thing is kicking inside me... how can it happen with anyone who is in love with someone dearly... how can you then lose your flow of talks... and sharing stuff...and intimacy... plz help me with this issue.Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe thing is that we realise its better not to talk when one is tired and yawning...n other is all fresh and expecting something good...so he was looking for solutions to talk in a fresh way...the problem has subsided coz...we are still going on this bumpy ride of love.....but after some days gap...he loses his rhythm....he says its inherent in him and he cant do anything abt it....dat kinda hurt me....if i was in his place...i wouldve worked upon it...to make him happy...coz its something i lack which is being d problem...when i tell him this....he says it happens with him all the time...even with his parents if he sees them after a loooong time...i dont know what to do abt this coz....im the exact opposite....plz guide me.....
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 June 2010):
 I am not sure if you mean that he wants to talk a little everyday but only at daytime- if it is so, I agree with Askoldersister.
Plus , how tiring can it be to talk on the phone ,even after a hard work's day. You put on your pyjamas,lay down on your bed or couch, dial a number and talk. It's not that it must go on for hours, or that you have to discuss about astrophysics or philosophy. How tired can you be for not being able to say " hi babe, how was your day, I missed you ".?
it sound like an excuse to me..
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