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writes:so im in a confusing, yet silly situation that i seem to have not alot of people to talk to. A not-so-close friend of mine brought up the subject of my bf, who i have just gotten back with after a long break, we had some issues, got back, and it's in my opinion going well. She has told me that my best friend doesnt like him and thinks i deserve better and well doesnt everyone, but to tell the truth , they always argue as they are in the same uni, and i have heard that she has been very rude to my bf by ignoring him and refusing to say hello. I am very sensitive when it comes to trust. and im very confused to what to think. I believe in my heart that i must not just break up with him, becuase my best friend just doesnt get along with him because of some fight over what music is better than the other (long story). He is not so well during arguments and tends to be very annoying when argued with, and im guessing the times im not around these things happen. If he didnt care about me and was a jerk, why the hell would he call me almost everyday and say how much he loves me, why would he even buy me concert tickets, why would he intrduce me to his family and then tell me im part of it. why would he even care if a guy flirts with me. or even care if i didnt call him for many days. I'm abit fustrated about how my friends are talking crap about him yet hes the best boyfriend i could have at the moment. what should i do? is it wrong of him to act different around me than to others. he is himself when we're alone, and IF i was ever upset, hed want me to talk about it anytime and pronto!thank you, any advice would be appreciated..
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reader, unknown goddess  +, writes (8 November 2009):
Dont end thing because your friend/s dont like him. The relationship is about YOU and HIM no-one else :)
Say to you friend that if they dont like him thats fine dont talk to him but not to bitch to you or other about him and the same to your bf.
Hang out with just your friends as well as with your boyfriend (if you dont already) and try to keep it fairly equal. I have a friend who sees her boyfriend all the time and I only see her once a week at college, at one point I blamed her bf for this but then realised it was her choice. This may be one of the reasons ur best friend also dislikes your bf. So try and balance it out, that is only if you dont already
hope ive helped and good luck :)
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reader, texas_princess  +, writes (8 November 2009):
 I have been in similar relationships.. and I have lost friendships because of the way I let a man treat me... one thing I have learned over the years is that you have to do what makes YOU happy... and forget the haters. If a friend is willing to stop being your friend when you need him or her the MOST... well I hate to break it to you, but that's not much of a friend. The true friends are the ones that tell you they will be there for you through thick and thin, lend an ear to bend, a shoulder to cry on and always be your friend whether they agree with your relationship decisions or not. Incidentally if it makes you feel any better, some of the bad relationships I have been in lately and whined to my friends about have really helped me week through my friends and find out who was truely there for ME. Do what makes you happy, and if this man (who sounds like he's a handful, but that he does love you) is what makes you happy, then I say stick it out and see what happens!
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