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writes:So my relationship is very complicated! I dated this guy for a year and a half and we even had a baby together. The problem is, while I was pregnant and even before he lied a lot. Although he claims he didn't cheat on me I still found messages he sent people over myspace when we were together hitting on people and even telling exes he missed them. The biggest problem of all is the fact that the people he was talking to were gay guys. I was aware that he had been with a guy before and thought he was bi at one point. However, after we were together he claimed he wasn't. Well because of my extreme mistrust for him we argued and broke up after a year and a half. Well, six months later I talked to him because I wanted to ask him if he wanted to see our baby. When we broke up he promised he wouldn't start trouble with me because he knew our baby was in good hands with me. But I felt guilty not letting him see our baby so we met to work something out.when I saw him again my feelings immediately came back and apparently his did as well. One thing led to another and we were back together happy as ever. Then I found out some things that happened during our six month breakup period. He had added several gay guys on myspace and gave his numbers to them. He claims he just wanted friends but it was more than obvious the gay guys he talked to were hitting on him because they said things like "you're cute". He also gave his number to them along with several girls. Even though that happened when we were broken up I still can't help but wonder is he gay or bi? I've told him several times to be honest with me and he still denys it. The problem is, I can't be with a guy who likes men and women. I've read so many articles on homosexuality being something people were born with that tell these stories of men with perfectly happy family and kids but deep down they want another man. I do not want to be the woman in a relationship like that. A part of me wonders if he is only trying to be with me because of our baby. My question is, how do I know if he is gay or bi because personally me being a straight woman would simply say I'm not interested in things like that. Regardless, now my trust for him is gone once again and I love him so much I don't want to let him Go. How can I find out if he is worth being with and also about this whole gay and bi thing. Cause if he is, he has been lying to me. I just need some form of answer because I am clueless and I feel so bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your help and advice ill keep it all in consideration.
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reader, soon567  +, writes (28 November 2010):
You're guy is bisexual. He can be turn on by either sexes, most bisexual or more risky than any other group out there. Not say that he can't be faithful to you, he's already looking. Some bisexual or more into one sex then the other, he still like penis as you do. At some point your sex life is going to hit a cold spot. I can't see him not acting on this I know he's going to be on his knees in front of another man and you need to realize that. Soon the better before you waste anymore time on this guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): He sounds bisexual to me as he was after both men and women. To be honest, I could not be with a bisexual man. He will always be wondering about a man and you cannot give him that as you are a woman. I would move on and let him find his own path in life.
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reader, petina1  +, writes (28 November 2010):
 You do know everything there is to know about him. I'm wondering what it is that makes you love him. Is it is sense of adventure. If you stay with him you won't ever change him. he wants it all. You could end up with a disease that you didnt bargain for as well. You've got the whole package with him, a liar, a cheat and a bi-sexual man. I'ts everything you are saying that you don't want in a man. Do you want your child to grow up in that kind of atmosphere? What you see in him is what others also see in him, he seems like a charmer to me. Try to be strong and take care of your child away from this situation or the child will suffer eventually with the relationship you have with the father. It is full of lies and mistrust.
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reader, drog +, writes (28 November 2010):
 It doesn't seem like his sexual orientation is the problem. He is clearly very promiscuous and not fit for the committed relationship that you perhaps are seeking. The confusion you are feeling about his sexual orientation may just be denial against his inability to keep a relationship.
You have to face it, this is not the type of man you're going to want around your child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2010): Yes.
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reader, not fat +, writes (28 November 2010):
he could be gay and is just not ready to come out. if he has been with anther man and is not grossed out then he is most likey gay. sorry keep your eyes open.
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