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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I met online and started dating 3 months ago. We'd text all day, skype, and end the night with a phone call. I recently went to visit him for the first time and we absolutely adored each other, and we discussed the possibility of me moving to his state. Unfortunately he lives with his parents, but they are very laid back and I wouldn't have any problem living under the same roof as them. Once I left, in excitement for me to return forever, he discussed the topic with his parents; this is were things kind of went bad.I'm unemployed and not in school. His parents are worried that they'll have to support me, and that we're rushing things. I suppose this scared him because he ended up calling me almost wanting to break it off until I reassured him that I have no intentions of having anyone other than myself support me - and that when we do eventually move out on our own, we can support EACH OTHER. I tell him I'll get a job and he tells me he's still worried and just needs to see it happen.So, within a few days and me talking to some people I know, I've landed myself a nice job that I'm currently training for. We change our plans so that maybe next summer I can move there - this gives us enough time to actually have a relationship, not rushing much and gives me time to make money. He tells me this is perfect and is excited for me. I figure things will go back to normal.However, he seems very distant. No texting, no calling, I feel like I'm having to force him to talk to me. So, I ask him for honesty. I ask if he really still wants to do this, and multiple times he tells me he does and that things are just fine between us, and that he loves me. I personally don't feel like they're fine.I'm wondering if I'm just being over sensitive at the moment. I just got off birth control and it definitely has messed with my mood - I'm crying over everything. Is this just his way of maybe dealing with the tension of these pass few days, or what? I mean whenever I bring up the subject of him being distant, he tells me that he was under the impression things were fine now. I just need some advice.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (6 September 2010):
 you only met him ONCE and you were willing to live with his parents? that screamt DESPERATE right there. Your man is too young to commit anyway. And you are not in a position for something like that. You did the right thing. Focus on your career,make that money,INVEST,and date men that have something going on for them. Not some guy who stays with his parents and wants you to move in with them then doesnt call you. You can find a better catch,you dig?
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