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writes:I just dont understand, me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 7 months and everything is great. we've never fought! i know thats crazy that we havent but its the truth. and he just recently got a new job that he's very busy with and is on call and works tons of hours and he enjoys it and im happy for him. then one day i asked him how he felt in the relationship cuz we dont really discuss it all the time and i was curious cuz im beginning to have strong feelings for him and want to know if im crazy for feeling the way i do at only 7 months. so i ask him over text cuz i was at work and had to ask cuz i couldnt wait it was bugging me and i had to know. so he texted me back " glad you asked :)" and then went on to say he would email me later and tell me. well a couple days go by and i didnt get a response yet. so i asked him to his face why, and he said that he's been thinking about it alot and and wants to put some thought into it. so i said whatever and went on with my day. then i get a text tellin me he was gonna send me the email but he wants to talk face to face i started freakin out cuz i didnt know what was gonna happen. so the next day i go to his house and he said that after i asked that question it made him start thinking and he said he realized that he feels like this shitty boyfriend and its eating him up and dostn like it and he feels liek with his job he is giving all his attention to it and not to me and he feels like its pushin him away. and he feels bad that i drive an hour to his house and wait for him to get home and when he does get home all he wants to do is sleep and he feels bad so he asked if we could go on a "break" and so he can figure things out. what does this mean?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 May 2010):
 It means he's bullshitting you. That is the old ,time - honoured "it's not about you, it's about me ". Yeah right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): It sounds as though your bf is too "scared" to tell you the truth about you, how he feels about you and why he is ending the relationship. Now, unless you were a cheater and treated him badly, why would he end the relationship with you? It doesn't make sense to me, but here is what I think---your bf is too coward to tell you the truth, he just might not be that into you and wants to date others unless he has already found someone else. I know it's hard esp. when you are in love with the person..it's hard to let go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): Ditto on what Rambini said -
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2010): That he wants to leave you could not be any clearer had he given you the old, "It's not you. It's me" routine...
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reader, hpoco  +, writes (2 May 2010):
 Don't try harder to make him like you more. It sounds like you already do a lot. I agree with the other poster, if he really thought he was a bad boyfriend, there are steps he could take to be better, instead of just ending the relationship. Its a little strange for him to come up with this when you haven't complained at all, it doesn't sound authentic.
Maybe he is just too stressed and tired right now to maintain a relationship. Maybe he needs some space, who knows? All you can do is accept that the relationship is over, and mend your heart. Spend time with your friends, let your ex know that you care about him, and maybe the two of you could be friends in the future. Good luck to you.
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reader, rambini  +, writes (1 May 2010):
 I'm sorry but it sounds like excuses to me. Surely if he was worried about being a bad bf, he would take steps to be a better bf not just end the relationship. Thats silly.
It sounds like he was using this as a way out. i hope not for your sake though, whatever happens keep your chin up :)
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