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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have been dating this guy for the last 3 years. He is Danish with Master degree.a year ago, he started to refer to me as someone. I wanted to go home, he said do not go, I want someone to hold on to.For the last year he has been referring to me as someone, or he would say he has no-one to hold on to.He also refers to me as British connection. he lives in London, he had a fling with a girl from Eastern Europe and he refers to her as .....connection.I find these comments offensive as if I do not have a name and I am there as he is lonely and I am not special, i am there because he has no-one else.I saw that he has also been on dating sites looking for women. it was on his laptop.He says I am wrong. am I? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 April 2011):
Lose him. He's useless.
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (13 April 2011):
Classic player. If you want a good man then you need to drop this "zero" because he's worthless and he's using you. I'm sure you're a great girl with a lot to offer someone who deserves it; this guy "ain't" it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): I wholeheartedly agree with sexlessintheuk...He is definately just using you to fill the empty voids in his life...you dont have time for that, do you? Shouldnt you be living your life, happy, carefree, and finding that special someone (or not, thats okay too) that WILL refer to you as your name and respects you enough not to refer to you as a "connection" (that is just despicable, btw) and is constantly on the lookout for a new "connection"?
The question you need to ask yourself is: What I am accusing him of (using you to fill empty space) am I guilty of doing the same thing? Am I strong enough to not need him, and move on, or will stay behind with him and be guilty of the same thing I am accusing him of?
You know what to do! A whole new world awaits you...meet it bravely, and respect yourself enough to not settle for second rate crap. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): I'm the writer of this article. Just in case there is any confusion about his English skills. His English is perfect. He has been living here for the past 8 years too.
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