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writes:My boyfriend posts up photos of porn girls and promo models in weekly blogs that he makes for his gaming group and stating that they are "his girls of the week." I find this so disrespectful towards me but is this over reacting? He claims the gaming group keeps pushing him to do this..I smell a lousy excuse. I don't mind him watching porn in private but I find that when it's posted publicly I get a bit offended by it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everyone, thanks for your feedback. Good and bad. I guess that's why I posted the question because I agree with all of you haha. The title seems a bit aggressive and that wasn't my intention at all.
We had a talk about it and he has stopped doing it. I guess I know him well enough that if I were to do something like that he would be upset about it too. I agree though I am glad he isn't cheating and I am very lucky to have him. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2012): And would he mind you posting well hung gorgeous hunks on your public blog and all your mates letching over them. Women seem to be the first to slate other women. If it upsets you then there is a problem. It's not about the fact he is not actively screwing these women at all. It's about his lack of sensitivity and immaturity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2012): you should get a grip. if you have no problem with him looking at it in private, then you shouldn't be having a problem with him posting it on a blog. you're being too oversensitive. you care too much about what other people will think of you based on what he does.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 I'm still reading, but again don't understand the problem. If he's posting naked women onto a blog, he's not using them for sexual purposes, he's not masturbating over them, he's not using them for his pleasure, he's filling up space on a page and it might as well be butterflies or cars, if that's what will bring the punter's in.In the UK, we have a daily newspaper that has a naked woman everyday. It's the best selling newspaper and has been for over 40years. But if the original poster was married to one of the journalist, she's tell him to quit his job or she'll go and get a divorce. But if the journalist left his job for that reason, he'd find it hard to get any other type of newspaper job, because he'd be too sensitive to work in a very competitive industry. The journalist isn't using the pictures of the pretty girls himself, he's been told to do it because in his world "sex sells".Gaming blogs are competitive, sure he could drop the girls, don't see what they have to do with gaming. But on the other hand, even the games themselves use nearly naked girls to create sales. He sounds like a guy who knows a lot about business, but he'll have difficulty moving forward because his girlfriend disagrees with his marketing plan.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2012): I completely agree with you, OP. It's one thing to look at porn in private, but it can really hurt a woman's ego to have her boyfriend telling everyone he knows that he constantly looks at other women even though he is with her. At least that's what I think. My husband is very discrete about this sort of thing, he'll sometimes briefly second glance someone while we're out in public, but that's about it. He even gave up porn when he was 19 because he started to realize how fake the porn stars really are...implants, labiaplasty, hair extensions, loads of makeup, fake tans. He said they started to look the same, just different hair colors. He also said that most of the porn stars in mainstream are horrible actors/actresses anyway lol. Hopefully one day your boyfriend will notice this, too, and then he'll lose interest. :) If not, you can always leave him to his pictures of these fake women, and find a real man who will at least have the decency not to share with the world what he jerks off to. What an immature, non-classy thing to do!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 Hmm, if you belong to the same gaming group why not post Stud of the week? To even it out?
Would I be hurt? Nah, not really however I do find it immature and borderline teenage behavior and honestly I would question my man's taste.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2012): If the images are particularly nasty and offend you as a woman. Try asking him to select some that are a bit classier, eg with some/more articles of clothing on. Calling them `his` girls is just an immature thing. They arent his girls, never will be his girls, he can only dream! He should grow out of that eventually.
His excuse for putting up the pictures is rather lame. He is not being pressured or bullied into posting pictures of porn stars! He wants to post them. He doesnt sound to be a bad person, he just has a bit of growing up to do. So as long as he can keep a grip on things, doesnt post anything too offensive and he is an otherwise good partner, I would let it go and try not to get too upset. He is just trying to fit in and be `one of the guys` by following examples from amongst his herd! So indulge him, bless. It is when he is posting pictures of his cute next door neighbour that you really have to worry. All the best.
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reader, landomando +, writes (22 February 2012):
zxcsdiana.... 100% agree
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reader, Miamine +, writes (22 February 2012):
Your boyfriend is posting these "girls of the week" for you. It's for a weekly blog that other guys are reading. Why is it disrespectful to you, are you also part of the gaming group?
I really don't understand. You don't mind if he likes porn. But if he and his guys like to put share a blog and have pretty women somehow this is a reflection on you. So if he does what you say, and the blog is ended because people go somewhere else then he is showing you respect.
I really don't get it. Why is it disrespectful to you? What is he doing wrong?
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reader, zxcsdiana  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 It's completely understandable as to why you'd be upset with him for posting up pictures like this! However, he isn't cheating on you with those girls in real life! If he was actually meeting up with these girls for the weeks they were his, that would be something to stress over.
For now, just let him know that it bothers you and that you really want him to stop posting pictures. If he doesn't, maybe what he's saying about the other boys pressuring him, is true. Maybe he doesn't want to appear "whipped" aka being bossed around by his girlfriend. If he's not cheating, then just be happy he's in your life and is faithful :)
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