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writes:hi, I'm 24 and my girlfriend Is 20,we've been togueter about 2 month now, and we have a great , fun and sincere relationship.the problem Is , neither of us Is experienced with sex, I've only had one previous experience and she had one too. But she's a little less "knowlegeadeable" on the area because I've been Interested In reading about the subject , no porn real sex talk, which Is not magical but helps me to be more open to her needs.i try hard not to hurry her, and I told her she could be completelly sincere If she didn't want to do something, we've tryid to make love a couple of times, but we've run Into some problems.she seems to enjoy being touched, and for the lack of a better description, everytime we tryed to have sex she would be really wet, she enjoys receiving oral, me masturbating her and finger penetration, but anything besides a thumb makes her feel pain and destroys all the foreplay. really my penis Is just the average.she Is an extrovert person, and I'm an Introvert, but when It comes to bed e switch, we've talked about the subject but It makes her shy, and I said she had all the time she wanted, she told me she never masturbated before and I encouraged her to try It, but she would rather masturbate me, because she was embarassed.also we are both chubby, I told her I actually love her like this and find her body very attractive , sex Is a bit more difficult because of our sizes and I sugested easier positions to her, but I noticed she Is less confortable when she Is In a position that shows her body.i feel she wants to be able to have a sexual life with me, but she feels frustrated by these difficulties, I know we will get over this problems, but I want to help ease the process both for her and for me.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (22 February 2012):
 HI
It's great your reading up on this matter, which means to me you are a very thoughtful and caring partner.
In your particular situation ( her shyness of her body )I would suggest lighting a few scented candles, this gives off little light, but offers the appearence of a smaller frame. As for her masterbating infront of you, that is going to take more time for to be secure around you. It's a very personal thing, so to share this experience with someone else will be a case of growing within your relationship, and letting herself go. it's only been 2 months so early days. As for her being tight below, you may feel like your an average size, because your used to seeing it, she will need to be completely relaxed when ou enter her, be very gentle, and slow, she will start to relax more hence allowing more of a sensual experience for you both and less painful. Over time she will be used to your penis size, and sex will be a breeze and fun to :)
Hope this helps
Mandy x
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