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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi guys I have been together with my boyfriend for one year plus for now. Whenever I hang out late at night with my friends, he never messages or call me to ask me if I have reach home. I told him before that making a call issn't going to hurt and complained that he is not concern about me. Then he explained that he wanted to give me freedom and don't want me to deem him as very possessive my keep calling me everyday or messages me. However, I feel that if the boyfriend is concern he will automatically try to contact me to check out whether I am home, am I right?And yesterday, I was followed home at night and I ran all the way home. I cried and I messaged him. He called me and I told him this incident had happened before and thats why I wanted him to ask me and show me concern whenever I am out and not to just ignore everything and go to sleep at ease.He did not really apologise because he felt that I should be the one making calls to ask him to send me home or even inform him to pick me up when I am going home late. He said he is not someone who will keep calling or contacting others which is pretty true. STILL I am his girlfriend but I feel so neglected in this way. But he told me that if I make a call to him he will come down to send me home...Now...I really wonder whether he really loves me? I thought this is a very natural way for a guy to express his love for the girl he loves... I am in so much pain and he don't know.... Reply to this Question
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reader, HappytoListen16  +, writes (26 February 2011):
Hey chick, don't worry, as long as you express your feelings to him and say "Look i'm kinda getting worried that your not checking on me" And if he sees the mistake that he's making right now, you're onto a winner of a man.
But If you say that and he does not see your point. Explain some more. And then if he don't see your point....Reverse psychology - Don't call him when he's out late! See how HE likes it .... He'll soon come around :)
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reader, Ms. Intuition  +, writes (26 February 2011):
I am so sorry for ur pain. You are right to feel the way u do. He is acting like he doesnt care much. At the very least he should have apologised for the incident. You seriously could have been hurt.
He ought to put more effort into showing u he cares. Everyone wants to feel loved and wanted, especially by their significant other.
Yes he would be there for you if you asked, but you shouldn't have to compel your boyfriend to care. Tell what and how you really feel in a calm manner. Tell him its not about him giving you freedom or any of that stuff. Its about him showing he cares. And not just caring, but caring enough to check up on you.
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