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writes:My boyfriend was sentenced to jail for 30 days for violating probation. His urine came up diluted, which means there was low levels of the natural substances in pee, indicating he added water to his pee sample. however, he swears he did nothing to his urine. but anyway, ive been struggling a lot with him being in jail. hes almost halfway done, and since were used to being together every day its been extremely hard. ive been paying his bills, putting a lot of money on this phone program so he can call me and his dad, giving the jail money so he can buy food toothpaste etc. i just feel like he doesnt appreciate me. today, he called me "an evil bitch" and "heartless" because i said i dont have sympathy for people in jail, for i believe they are there for a reason. i dont know how to deal with my feelings. is he just stressed and turning his sadness into anger towards me? ive been laying in bed basically depressed since he left on the 21st. please help, i need a way to deal with my emotions in a healthy way
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reader, courtney24 +, writes (5 April 2011):
 its not you, when men go to jail they lose all control to the outside world.. he probably feels worthless. i wouldnt deal with being called names like that even though he is in a difficult place there is no excuse for that, he should be sweet talkin u if anything.. he better appreciate a chic like you even sticking around in this situation, most women wouldnt or they wouldnt help as much as u have!
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reader, Yetilicious +, writes (5 April 2011):
 Well I agree, I don't feel sympathy for the majority of people in jail because they are there for a reason. Honestly, I think your boyfriend is slightly being a douchebag, because you are going out of your way to help him...I wonder if he's thanked you at all? I'm sure he is stressed, and maybe he took your comment as you think HE deserved to be there and took it to heart. People say things they don't mean all the time, so unless it continues to happen I wouldn't worry too much about it. As for the rest, there's only 2 more weeks to go and time flies, so he will be out before you know it. The best thing to do is to keep busy, don't just lay around depressed...do things. Go out with your friends, spend some time with your family, take a walk, drive around, catch up on some movies, go out to eat. Trust me, time will go much faster.
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