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writes:How do you get over a breakup when you love and care for someone?My boyfriend of 9mths indirectly broke up with me, he just has been ignoring me for the past month and i havent done anything wrong: no cheating, etc...he just stopped texting, replied less to my texts, ignored my calls..never gave me a reason why. He left me hanging, I asked why and no reply, he seems like as if he is angry with me for no real reason. It's been a month, I have accepted the this silent breakup..though it has been taking my self esteem a bit. My friends tell me that im good looking, smart, funny, etc, they are doing their best to cheer me up. I've been trying to keep myself busy with hobbies, work, school, etc..but that doesn't stop the pain in my heart he caused since I fell in love with him. We were perfect, and just this silence came from no where..we are in our mid 20's, he is reaching soon 30...and I didnt expect for a man to be acting so childish. Any suggestions? thanks.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 November 2009):
He was a damn coward, pure and simple. It may have knocked your self esteem a bit, bit this has nothing to do with you. Keep busy and move on. there will be a FAR better guy out there. Don't think it's anything to do with you. In truth you're life will be far better without someone like this in it.
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reader, secret27wish +, writes (22 November 2009):
This is so hard because you have invested yourself for almost a year into this relationship, and now here you are without closure. My self-esteem would have taken a bit of a beating too; it's disrespectful and hurtful of him to behave this way. My advice would be to do what you need to do to get closure. If it's writing him a letter or texting him just one more time, do it - and then let it go. This isn't a guarantee that he will respond or explain things; this is an act for *you* to bring the closure you need so that you can move on. Then, whether you receive a response or not, you need to let him go and know that you did what you could do to find closure. Sometimes we have to do close things on our own; I have done this before too. It's difficult. Remember this quotation: “Circumstances are beyond human control, but our conduct is in our own power.”
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): Hun, this seems to be the new way that guys decide to end it for some reason, i know a lot of women who have been silently dumped and thats most probably the reason why your hurting more because you don't know why he did it, well its most probably because he couldn't be mature about it so he chose the easy way to do it not thinking of the hurt he might cause you.
No matter what anyone tells you your going to still miss him until you yourself decide that your over it, you should try de-clusting by removing all the bad things in your life like any of his stuff, clothes you dont like any more or just having a good tidy up, it will make you feel alot better like your having a fresh start.
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