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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi everyone,My boyfriend told me that he'll be coming over my home at around 10.00 am yesterday because we were planning to hang out together the whole day but he didn't.When I called him up yesterday morning around 9.30 am to confirm our plans, he didn't pick up his phone. I waited till 1.00 pm and then phoned again to see if he was alright and sent two text messages asking if he was ok.I didn't get any replies. Then at around 8 PM, I called him up and he picked up the phone and said that he couldn't come over because he was summoned by his friend's mother for some urgent matters. I was really upset the whole day because he didn't even bother to call me up/ sms and tell that he was not coming. I did let him know this! (He didn't apologize or anything)The same thing happened today.He was free today and we were chatting via text and he asked me if he could come over and I said Yes and that he had to confirm that because I have plans to go to town if he is not coming. He said inform me whether he comes or not. This happened in morning 10.00 am and now it is 8.00 pm again and I have not heard from him yet. I am so frustrated and angry at him. I don't know how to react. Please help me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 such behavior is unacceptable.
if he cannot treat you with common respect and courtesy he is not boyfriend material.
once might be forgivable. twice is not acceptable.
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reader, krit +, writes (4 July 2011):
 Take a step back and remain as calm as you can . Give him silent treatment. Same thing happened to me with my gf. It worked for me.
She canceled the date at the very last moment when I had already planned everthing. It takes effort and time in arranging things. Her reason for not showing was that her aunt was at her place so she couldn't had leaft her house. Things were pre planned so there was no way I was gonna cancel them. I went ahead with my plans and had great time with my buddies. I made her wait for a few weeks for the next date. She apologized for being bitchy and asked me out.
And when we finally went out together it was soo good that when we returned home we still talked about 3 -4 hrs over phone.
You should be there for him when he needs you but NOT when he's acting aloof.
So the bottom line is don't sit and day dream about what's goin up with him if he's not responding. Have a girls night out and enjoy your time. It is our right to be happy.
What is important is that learn to enjoy your time with both with him and without him. This way we don't push the other one to hang out when he's having some other important stuff to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): If this happened to me I would not consider him my boyfriend any longer. This is rude in the extreme.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): You need to sit this guy down and tell him what he's doing is out of order! A half hour or soemthing of lateness is okay but when he's taking hours to turn up or doesn't even turn up, that is disrespectful and looks like he can't be bothered to see his girlfriend. Tell him how you feel, and if he sees no problem with his actions - i would seriously look at your relationship if these actions keep happening it shows this guy is lazy and can't be bothered with relationships and you don't want a man like that.
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