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writes:Boyfriend help!My boyfriend doesn't get along with men/guys well. So he has alot of "girlfriends." I usually, am a jealous girlfriend, not overly jealous, but average jealous for a girlfriend. However, recently, one of his "girlfriends", he has, chose alot over me, and when I was upset or hurt he'd be to busy with her he would tell me to wait, and he would be so focused on her, he wouldn't really pay attention to us. I told him I was done, and I shouldn't feel that way, and .. that friend ended up going, and he pinky swore he'd never talk to her again. Well, then he found a new friend, also a girl, and he began to have the same problems. It wasn't until the first situation that I lost my trust and got completly over jealous because of what he was doing, and I was afraid he'd leave me for her. Well, now that this second friend is here, we are fighting again, because he's always wanting to text her be with her, and all this stuff. It's gotten completly terrible recently, to where I'm fed up, always crying, and just want to end it, but I love him way to much. I told him that she needs to go, because of what he was doing, I know it was wrong, but I am insecure, and afraid what will happen again. He said no, and then the other night, he hung out with the friend he pinky swore he'd never talk to again for me after months of not talking to her. Now he's talking to both, barely has time for me, when we talk he's barely interested or paying attention cause he's focused on them. What should I do? I know I don't have the right to choose his friends, but he doesn't care how much this bothers me. I don't know what to do anymore! Please help.
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reader, muso888  +, writes (4 June 2011):
Dump him and wait for a boyfriend who will choose YOU every time, female friends or no female friends.
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (4 June 2011):
 Time for you girlfriend, to get a new boyfriend, one who doesn't have girlfriends. It is really quite simple. You can do better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2011): ok so i think that u shouldnt even be with him i would hate the thought of my girlfriend acting like that and also dont forget to kick his balls when u leave him for a new boyfriend
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (4 June 2011):
 The problem with forcing issues where a person has to chose one person over the other is that we are not always happy with the choice once made.
You ask what you should do, here is my answer:
leave him to his female friends and find a boyfriend who has male friend or, because a boyfriend who has male friends might want to hang out with them sometimes, leaving you on the outer, your best bet might be to find a boyfriend with no friends. Then you wont have to ask him to chose, and he will be able to focus totally on you instead ... unless he likes video games, or reading, or watching SF, in which case he might focus on his hobbies rather than you, so you might be better off finding a boyfriend with no friends and no hobbies.
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