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writes:so ive been with my bf for 3 years and im 18 hes 20on sunday my boyfriend called me but his tone of voice seemed weird like if he was upset but when i asked if he anything was wrong he said he was fine....then the next 2 days after that his phone had been disconnected to i didnt hear from him then wed his phone was connected but he didnt call and yesterday i called him and left him a voicemail and told him to call me and he still hasnt called.my boyfriend has always been the type that when he is upset or dealing with something bad he shuts the world out sometimes including me but usually he would let me know in advance if he need his space but this time he said he was fine so i dont know why he is ignoring mei really miss him and i just want to talk to him already but i dont want to seem clingy i just feel like this is soo unnecessary and i was even thinking of breaking up with him when he does call because i cannot be dealing with this constant ignoring when i havent done anything wrongshould i just wait for him to call me?,break up? or call him?
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reader, xtatic_kid  +, writes (1 October 2010):
give him some space. let him vent his issues out. then send him a text asking him how he is etc. if he doesn't reply then call him.
it might also be a idea to ask some of his mates if they've seen him recently etc
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reader, dirtball +, writes (1 October 2010):
 I would suggest waiting a few more days before trying to call him again. I think a break up is premature but like xlaurenx said, you will need to talk to him about how if he wants to have space for a while, he should tell you first, but you're fine with it and will give him the space he needs. You can also express that because you're his GF, you want to help him through the tough times, that's one of the great benefits of a relationship, someone to lend support when you need it.
Wait a bit longer, then call him again. Even better stop by. He may not be outwardly happy to see you, but since he's not answering the phone or returning calls, you need to at least find out what's going on.
I hope this works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): I can understand how frustating this may be but don't be too hasty in making your mind up or jumping to conclusions.You say yourself he often shuts people out so this seems to be his way of dealing with things.You've left a message so now I guess you'll just have to give him his space. Go out with your friends and have a good time to take your mind off things with him.When he does get in touch tell him that as your his gf it was harsh to ignore you like that and if he takes your relationship seriously he should just be honest and say that he wants some time to deal with something-then you would understand and leave him to it and not worry. Be honest with him yourself and say that you're not sure if you can cope in a relationship where you get ignored without knowing why.Hopefully he will explain and realise how rude it was to ignore you when all you were doing is caring and with a bit of a chat together you'll get through this and become stronger, x.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): first off.... you should not break up with your boyfriend because he didn't call. and if you do break up with him... this will probably be the end. if he is even thinking things are not working out between you two and then you are the one to call it off... he will run faster than you can imagine. I would try calling him again and do not grill him on why he hasn't called. I would say to him that you were hoping to have heard from him sooner.. but no biggie. good luck
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