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writes:My boyfriend has a "teeth" fetish. Or maybe it's a cavity fetish. He always wants to look inside my mouth at fillings I've had done, or any dental work, he likes to feel my teeth with his tongue while we're kissing, and he's even asked if he could see copies of my dental x-rays. I care about him and this is the only persistent problem between us so I would really like to find a way to work around this, but it makes me uncomfortable! He is constantly asking me questions about my dental history and wanting to look inside my mouth, and he has made it clear that it's a sexual thing and he's turned on by it. I'm really not sure how to handle this because I've never dealt with anything like this before. Any help??
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reader, anonymous134  +, writes (21 January 2011):
I guess my first question for you is why does it make you feel uncomfortable?? As for it being weird maybe embarrassing then I really dont see why you are posting this on the internet.... it should be something thats between you and him. My advice would be to maybe let him floss your teeth let that be his foreplay to sex and at the same time it helps you with your dental hygiene LOL Now if this is an obessession of his in that hes calling you non stop or non stop wanting to look into your mouth then that is definately a problem. But you also have to look at it from the perspective that this might be the first time hes been able to gratify this fetish and u might very well be the first person he has told about this. You should ask him about this. With time it will most likely decrease
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2010): Sounds like he would make a great dental hygenist. Very peculiar fetish, but I've heard of weirder. I knew a guy who was into women with NO hair except on their heads. He was Emo, and had a GF who singed off her eyelashes with a lighter just to please him. She also cut herself and was into vampirism...so go figure.
I dunno...if it bothers you, he will have to explore other areas of sexuality with you. Do not put up with anythingn you object to.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (16 September 2010):
 Wow, just when you thought you'd heard everything ...
OK, fetishes can be creepy, particularly when we don't get them at all. I suppose this one is less gross than lots of others, but it doesn't matter if you're getting creeped out by it. I suppose the bottom line is that this is an aspect of his sexuality. He could have kept it to himself, but he trusted you enough to let you in on the secret. So you're left with the choice -- put up with it or dump him.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 September 2010):
 That's a new one for me. You say it's a problem for you, so how have you been handling it so far? Have you just been letting him look and lick? Have you been giving in to all his requests?
When dealing with a fetish, you have to decide if it's something you are ok with or if it is a deal breaker. It won't go away. You can discuss trying to find some middle ground where if he doesn't let it dominate your relationship so much (i.e. wanting to see your x-rays and dental history) you will let him look at your fillings, lick your teeth, maybe give him a little bite now and then. Finding a level where you're comfortable and he's still happy is what you're going for. If it is just too weird for you, then you should leave.
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