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writes:Hi! I'm 20, my fiancé is 21 and we've been together for a little over 5 years. About a week ago, he refused to have sex with me. He says his libido has just decreased. However I find that odd since he's at the ripe age of 21 which is his sexually peaked age, right?He never treats me like we're in a relationship either. He treats me like a best friend. He won't kiss me, hug me, hold me... No attention whatsoever! When I bring this up though, he gets offended and very offensive. How can I talk to him without hurting his feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): G.A.Y! He's gay hunny.
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reader, PinupShelly +, writes (10 May 2011):
Thank you all for taking the time to help. I have tried to talk to him again, but he tends to "forget about it" like it never happened, so a more serious, stern talk will happen soon! :)
He isn't religious at all, and he says I am the "one" so I'm not sure what it could be. :(
And im not upset by this at all, It just makes me a little sad. Thanks everyone again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2011): Does he have christian pr personal values that he keeps to himself? Perhaps he is afraid if he shares them you will try and make him behave in a way he does not want to.
Maybe he is trying to be sure he is with the right girl first and that he wants to get it right and not ruin something perfect. If that is the case it is a rare and good thing so try not to get to upset.
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reader, Drew21  +, writes (9 May 2011):
 5 years is a long time. I think in a long relationship this is actually quite common. I know around the 3 year mark my wife started to worry because our sex life kinda hit a lull.It could be any number of things. I would talk to him about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): You should have a serious conversation together...you should tell him that he is hurting your feelings too when he doesn't wanna talk about it...you should know whats wrong because you are his gf even like a best friend he should talk to you...tell him this.
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reader, MistressNataliee  +, writes (9 May 2011):
He might be secretly feeling the same feelings as you, that you are becoming more like best friends then partners and this may be putting him off sex. Or other worries and stresses may be too. Talk to him about it? Or you could go out and buy a really sexy outfit or underwear set, do candles, maybe a meal but make a really big effort, especially with your appearance then he wont be able to resist you! It may just be a case of it needing to be spiced up and to be honest, thats what it sounds like to me! Good luck though!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2011): And just to add, he went from wanting sex 24/7 to wanting sex NEVER.
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