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*eethi
writes:I was a kind of most innocent and true persons. When i got a job in a new city, i found my coleagues trying to exploit my weaknesses, viz. weaping easily, new to the city, having no relatives and house etc., at the same time undergoing the biggest problem of infertility. On these lines by some or the other means they continued hurting me, made mockery, fun and insult me to the extent of affecting my married life and thus threaten to my life. Since my hubby was though not highly educated a small buisnessman, but had been a most understanding man on the earth and supported me with his favourable attitudes. My husbands cooperation and faith in me saved me and strengthened me to continue my job somehow. Years went but the things in office didn't repair and my sensitive heart kept weeping for at least one in office to understand that i am not a dirty woman, that i am right and those hurting me are actually wrong. 11 yrs.passed and i found myself all alone more than ever before. Everybody considered me wrong, this thought had taken away all my interest from life, family, health and also my dissatisfied marital life. Although i always cooperated with my hubby in personal relations but my mind was so much dissatisfied that it never led me to true meaning and satisfaction. It all was converted into a painful physical relationship. The stress had developed into me severe backache problem, hormonal and psychological disturbances, calcification in brain and worst of all was i was not in the mental staus to get myself properly treated. It was like living dead. living without life.. When one of my coleagues suddenly began to interfere in my life. He had been one of the most sophisticated gentleman type person, who always seemed to be a wiser man but due to my bad reputation, i never tried to maintain any healthy relation. I always was under a thought that what others might be thinking of me. He shared certain good leveled atricles with me. and by and by our common interests made us good friends. Since i already had a very defamed name, i could never think (nor i ever wished)of any wrong relations (since already i was undergoing painful physical relation with my hubby, i'd lost the interest in such things also), i hardly could believe that this man has really come in my life and is showing his faith in me in the office for which i'd been dying all these 12 yrs. His friendship amazingly relieved me of my several pains and made my teasers away from me and i also found myself safe.(He never spoke openly to show he is favouring me because that could lead to more worst situations) but daily came to my seat to have a small talk. I also developed good family relations with his family. They were also appreciative of my clear heart and attitudes. But those who were enjoying hurting me and my loneliness did not cherish it and tried to let down. When there efforts didnt work, one of his family frind interfered n his family and spoke all nonsense to believe them them that her husband was on a wrong track with a wrong woman. This was not true at all. But the lady and her daughter did not understand their cunningness and created problems at home, in the colony and even openely. Instantly i myself tried to convince her,. She even came to my home to talk about all this to me. Seeing my husband at home, she asked him to leave us alone, when i weapingly told her that i wont mind speaking all that she wanted to even before my hubby, because he was already aware of everything and i had nothing to hide from him. Both of us convinced her that it was just the tricky game of the office employees. and she left satisfactorily. But still, it seems she was a kind of most rigid persons and she ruined her married life. Her husband who didnt like to share his personal family matters a bit was also disturbed. My problem was if we stopeed talking, those my enemies would feel victorious and they would ruin me further which was so much unbearable to me. Being man, he also did not want those wrong talks to get won and lose a nice hearted person like me..That was the worst time when my tears didnt stop for almost a month. Whether to continue or not? His company was like the most required medicine for my life and happiness. Nothing could have been more important to me that time. He was much upset with his wife's behaviour which he never threw upon me. Both of us were dammm sad. Should i have left him all alone, that would also mean that we were wrong and we got scared. Wrong people would have thought that they had given us a lesson (When there was nothing to prove anything wrong against us.) Now both of us are like medicine for each other. I got promtion to another city and he was the happiest person and advised to go (without being greedy of my company he would lose). He knew the things at his home would not change but i left that place believing that this would change his wife's attitude.But now after one and a half year of my transfer,i know the things have not changed there. That man never cries of his pain but when i sometimes insist a lot, he speaks about the things negatively but never forcingly or insulting/abusing his wife. Only what hurts him that why she went according to the opinion of others and not his or her own opinion. Since 4 yrs. to all this have passed, our friendship has also gradually taken a bit different shape as per the life requirement and caring for each other. We both are at different places and hardly have a chance of meeting but we find as much together as ever. Even if i ever speak of getting an oppportunity and joining back that place, he wouldnt advise (Although our close friendship should have made him greedy of getting back my company and thereby increasing the closeness), but for his happiness he wouldnt advise me to go back between those people who almost ruined most of my life. Should there be any more test to know that he is not a best friend?
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (9 May 2011):
 A parable
A women looking for the meaning of life walked up a steep mountain that took many days and was very difficult.
When she reached the summit she found a monk and asked him.
"I need to know the meaning of life."
So he took her to a cave and brought many many books for her to read. He left her and came back the next week.
"Do you know the meaning of life now?"
"No, there are so many books to read, I still do not know the meaning of life"
The monk placed down even more books and raised his walking stick and beat her and left.
A week late he returned to the cave with more books and the same question
"Do you know the meaning of life now?"
"No, are you not going to tell me, these books are not helping, I am cold and hungry"
The monk again beat her with the his walking stick and left her alone.
5 weeks of this had repeated themselves and again the monk returned to the cave with more books for the woman.
"Do you know the meaning of life now?"
"No, I came here for you to tell me, you must help me understand what it is"
The monk placed down the books and lifted his walking stick in the air to beat her. But the women grab the stick and blocked it's fall. The monk smiled and said.
"You have learned everything you need you may leave this place now, go in peace"
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