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writes:I feel my boyfriend doesn't take my passion for art or the career path I want to follow seriously. I've explained to him is part of who I am, drawing means everything to me as it's not just a hobby, it's something I hope to be into within my career and literally make a living off of. Whenever I mention what I'm doing and most of the time it's drawing, he finds it "boring" and it's just a "hobby" I don't have to do all the time. In past years I've spent tons of time with him which has been fun along with other hobbies I do besides my art, until recently I have decided art is what needs focusing on more than anything to achieve my goal, so to me he's become fustrated at the fact he's not getting much attention as usual and puts down my love for drawing every chance he can get because I'm not spending as much time with him.Should I just ditch him? Least then I could possibly find someone who would appreciate me as a career-driven person in the future, but right now he's acting immature over it and only cares about himself and what he wants 24/7. Thanks Cupids.
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reader, yomama65  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Ooh, honey, as a woman who is an actress and singer, whenever I have the opportunity, my advice would be to never let anyone interfere with something that brings you that much joy, especially if you are considering a career in the arts. Many men don't understand that we are artists and may feel a little threatened by our passion for what we do. I just ended a two year relationship over this issue. You need a man who supports you and appreciates your talents. He should be proud to share you with the world! I say "live the dream, baby." :)
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reader, WinterSage +, writes (4 March 2011):
I've signed up and read the replies, my anonymous reply should appear shortly about it further. Thank you everyone once again for giving me advice, it means alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): Thank you everyone who has replied. I spend as much time with him as I can and act loving as I should. It seems no matter what I do to make time for us, he will ALWAYS complain and want more and more. Deep down I feel he IS getting in the way of my career path, his negativity isn't helping me in the slightest and he's never been this way before. It does bring me down as nothing regarding free time makes him happier unless he's getting it every single hour of the day. These replies have helped me see into it more and I feel I know what is right to follow. Very much appreciated.
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (4 March 2011):
 Only you can decide whether to ditch him or not.... However, what I will say is, don't let a boyfriend get in the way of your future career....something that you are so passionate about. On a personal note, I feel that I have only ever made one big mistake in life, and that was to give up a huge passion of mine, which was dancing... I was a dancer from the age of 4 until I was 16, training 4 days a week, comps at weekends, even been on TV. However, I foolishly gave it up because of my boyfriend, he also wanted me to give up modelling, but I didnt because that didn't take quite so much of my time up. However, many years on... 26 years in fact... I still miss my dancing... I could kick myself for it, because I know I would have become a professional and had my own dance school.So my advice is, don't let this happen to you..... stick with it and follow your dreams, we are a long time dead!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2011): If I were lucky enough to know exactly what I wanted to do with my life, I wouldn't want to put up with it.
He might do this because you've chosen a career path that's competitive and where it's difficult to make money...perhaps he thinks he's doing you a favor by putting you down, so you don't build up any hope for yourself.
But as you said, it's everything to you, you're already taking your decision seriously and if you want to go through with it, you can't have someone constantly pulling you down.
I would ditch him but give him a fair explanation why.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (4 March 2011):
 I think if a guy puts down something you have passion talent and ambition for he is not a keeper. He might be jealous at the ART, and in a relationship you have to be able to juggle hobbies, careers and a partner.In my opinion, if he can't be supportive you might start to doubt yourself and your career choice. Do you see yourself with him long term if he wasn't so negative about your art? If so, you need to give him a dose of honesty.And have you considered making sure you take the time to spend with him as well, or did you sorta "dump" him while having fun with art?
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