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writes:Ok so me and my ex have been on/off for the last 4 years. We go throught different stages, nice and bad. The bad where we just seem to argue and he breaks up with me. He goes sour and never wants to talk to me. He is super stubborn. He says a few hurtful stuff and after acting like an idiot i give him time.This recent arguement he try tell me he didnt love me now more. Which i didnt believe cause he was telling me how us breaking up would break his heart a few day before we spilt. As hard as it was i gave him time to calm down.The arguement happened like 2/3 weeks ago. And last night i missed him lots so i tried to call him. This was the first time which he had answered the phone to me in weeks.. I try have a simple convo like how are you. and he just said he doesnt wanna talk cause its akdward.I later texted him and confessed that i had missed him. He reply ( first time in weeks) that he cant handle the arguements and he feels like i moan too much, and being single is easier.I took it like a knock on the chin and let him have his time once again.. I think he'll come around in time cause he always does but a little bit of me thinks mmm maybe its over for gd..But any advice on how to make him see the good side of me again?? I have already invited him on a friendly meal out, but he had rejected. x
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reader, yaytentacles  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 If he doesn't like you anymore, he doesn't like you anymore. You can't force someone into missing you or liking you again.
Besides, he sounds like a complete jerk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): I think that you should let some more time pass. Absence makes the heart grow founder. Men are natural hunters he needs to know that your not just sitting around waiting on him. Don't answer his calls, Don't call him, If he leaves a message asking you out. Respond to him but not right away. Beautify yourself then go on a date with him only if he ask. Speak of only positive things on the date don't bring up the past don't allow him too either.Divert the attention on something new or positive that your doing or working on. Make something up but don't make up something too outlandish. You will get a better response trust me. If none of this work prepare yourself to start dating amongst the other single women out there. Dating has it's ups and downs but its better than you chasing after this man. He must too realize the value in you and how beautiful that you are and how lucky he is to have someone like you. Don't ever doubt yourself. God made someone for everyone in this world.Good Luck and follow our plan if that doesn't do plan B start dating other men.Signed ***** Diamond in the Ruff****
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reader, dirtball +, writes (7 October 2010):
 WALK AWAY!!! There is no good side here. You two aren't meant to be together. If you were meant to be together you wouldn't be doing this make up/break up crap. Neither of you will find someone who you can be truely happy with as long as you perpetuate this failed relationship. Walk away, it will be the best thing you ever did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): I dont want to be nasty but leave him alone! Trust me if you just ignore him he will get in touch with you and if you act all nice and cool when he does he will be back. Do not contact him being all needy and clingy as it will push him further away, trust me im in a similar situation and i made the mistake of always contacting him saying i missed him asking to meet him and it has pushed him away further. He has even changed his number lol.
Good luck and be patient x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2010): I think you need to give him space and respect that's what he wants. Maybe, and it's a big maybe, he will come round and want to be with you again but for now i think you should just let him be. You've asked him out for a meal and he turned you down, take that as a sign. The more you keep on the further he will distance himself from you. As far as missing you goes, he may well do but you can't MAKE him miss you, he either does or doesn't. Give him the space he wants and go out with your friends and let him come to you.
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