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writes:Dear Agony Aunts,I'm a 16 year old girl in a committed relationship with my boyfriend of a year and a half (he's 17 and my best friend). Everything is great, he loves me and I love him (and not the typical teenage love where you say I love you after three dates).The only problem is we are both virgins. Both of us are ready for the next step and, I have no idea how. I understand the basic idea of sex but, I don't know how it is done. While I am young, both my partner and I are emotionally mature and ready for this. We've talked about it, our feelings are clear and we are comfortable with one another. I just would like to know what a woman should and can do her first time to make it hurt less, to make it easier. I'd like to know what positions work best and is there anything I can do to prepare for it (I won't masterbate btw). If any aunt knows of a site with information or has advice themselves I'd appreciate it fully.Oh, and random piece of info. Both my boyfriend and I are agony aunts on this site so we can both read this advice, so if any advice is directed towards the guy, he can read that too.Thank you very much. I really appreciate any advice.
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reader, Goth Mo +, writes (7 July 2007):
Sweetie, number one being in a relationship for that long when you're this age is an awesome achievement. I recently lost my virginity with my boyfriend of 10 months, we were both virgins and we're each other's best friends and like you it isn't "teenage love". The only piece of advice I would give you is go slowly and enjoy it. Don't plan every detail just have all the neccessary things and make sure your parents WON'T be home for a while. We were just as scared and excited as you are and because we took our time and we didn't go too fast too soon it didn't hurt me at all. One more piece of advice. Don't just go head long into sex. Just feel the emotion, foreplay, all the stuff that you usually do, with a care not to tire your down bellow. Foreplay = lubrication = easier better sex. Just look into each other's eyes, kiss each other and enjoy the feeling of being completely one. Good luck
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reader, Ask_HanBan  +, writes (19 June 2007):
 dont rush things, if not u'll make a fool of yourself
dont think about it too much, it will all come natrually
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (18 June 2007):
 I'll write for your guy. Be gentle, man. I can tell you will want to rush. That is NOT the way to do it. Think that she is not going away; she is there for you, and you can make it a wonderful experience for both of you or you can simply rush it.
Enjoy, guys.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (18 June 2007):
 The best position for your first time is the standard missionary position. This is the one with the guy on top and you are facing each other. There should be plenty of foreplay so that you are lubricated and 'ready' and excited. This position is best for several reasons. One, it allows you to look into each others eys, and to hold onto each other equally. Also, chances are this will be rather painful for you and if you are in a 'control' position like girl on top you may not be able to cause penetration. He should go slowly putting it in just a bit at a time and advance as you tell him to. If you tell him to go slower he should, if you tell him to push harder he should. Both of you should take your time and really make this a special evening. You will have sex many times in your lives, hopefully with one another. But you only get to lose your virginity once.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 June 2007):
 There's no right way or wrong way to have sex and it doesn't always hurt. Making love to someone should be spontaneous and natural, not something with a set of rules and regulations attached. Just enjoy being together in each others arms and let nature take its course. You could set the mood by having some candles in the room and maybe some soft music in the background but as long as you're totally relaxed with each other and absorbed in one another then it should be magical! The only planning you have to do is to make sure you're on some form of contraception beforehand.
Have fun! ;o)
Eve
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