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writes:I have a friend (guy) was working with me. Both he and I are married, he likes me a lot and once over the phone he kissed me and said he loves me. I kept silent. We both know that we like each other so much. I changed my job and went to another company, he was very very upset and scolded me for leaving him.Even though I love him I don't want to say. He comes to my mind all the time. I like him a lot but I don't know whether I should tell him. please help me. Reply to this Question
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reader, quarky  +, writes (28 October 2008):
 I've been in a similar situation and to some extent, still am as I'm still trying to get over her. I can only agree with what's been said before-who's to say that what you have for this guy will and can actually be better than your marriage? Falling in love is dangerously seductive. Concentrate on your marriage, on the man you love, and try to make it better-it's not that difficult, but you do have to make a concious decision to try. And think clinically and objectively (forget the feelings) of the pain you both will cause if this comes to anything...you'll probably find it really isn't worth it. What you risk is losing your husband and the other guy and being alone-is that a chance you're willing to take?
It's not uncommon to fall in love with someone else when married-this site is littered with similar issues. It's what you do about it that counts...take care
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reader, Mae5 +, writes (27 October 2008):
 Hi, I think you should think about how much do you value your marraige. I was in a similar situation and after a long period of time we told each other how we felt, and started having an affair. It has now all come out and has caused utter devastation in my and my husbands life. I thought I loved this man more than anything and he told me the same I thought we were destined to be together but when it came down to the crunch he ran a mile and has ignored letters from me. He told my husband that he loved his wife and only "thought" he loved me but I made him feel good. I now know I had in fact fallen for a total lie. I betterly regret everything that has happened. So I would think long and hard about declaring any feelings for him, and ask yourself about your husband and your marraige because once you declare those feelings it is like opening a can or worms you cant shut again. I wish you all the very best.
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