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writes:Hi,I am a 14 year old female and I know I am obese!!I weigh around 14 stone and, Im 5Foot"3Inches Tall.I try to stop myself from eating and do exercise but It only works for as long as two days then I give up because I don't see a difference. I know I won't change In 1 day but I get so annoyed. All my family and friends say I'm not a fat and being fat is rolls of fat but all my fta goes to my legs and bum and not my belly. Recently I had been asked out by some boy whom I like so so much. I said no because I'm very conscious about my weight and maybe thought one day he would realize I was fat and dump me because of that. Also everyone was saying to him that he wanted to go out with a "fat girl" and how he could do better. He said I was pretty and that I had a nice smile but nothing about my weight which made me realize that big is not that bad but I still don't like being fat. I had an aruguement with him because i thought he was playing games with me, because I was a fat girl but he said he was telling the truth and i was pretty and that I had a nice smile but nothing about my weight which made me realize that big is not that bad but I still don't like being fat. Those people's comments hurt me, and I really want to prove them wrong and need people to realize that yes I am over-weight and even though I am going to try to do something about it, it doesn't matter what size you are still beautiful.Thank You,Yours sincerely an Anonymous Teenager In Need! x Reply to this Question
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reader, keely-h +, writes (28 October 2007):
 well there are plenty of diets you can do but you must work on them.find a diet that suits you.remember you dont have to model thin just aim to lose so much each month.
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Ever heard that song by Mika - Big girls you are beautiful?
Being curvy/pear-shaped/overweight - it's fine hunny!
You should love yourself for who you are. It's better than being a size zero anorexic! Boys prefer girls when they're bigger anyway, they like some flab to grab hold of and cuddle up to :)
I know that you know you're beautiful - from your last sentence... I'm assuming you're worrying about this because of what other people MIGHT think of you. Not everyone has the same cruel mind as those bullies who make such unappropriate comments! Which you've proved by mentioning that boy who asked you out! You shouldn't turn someone down because of your self-consciousness - It's quite silly! He obviously likes you for who you are and what you look like!
Having said that... Being that weight at such a young age can be dangerous in later life, you'll be prone to heart attacks, diabetes, stokes etc. All i'm suggesting here, is that you should eat healthily - 5+ portions of fruit and vegetables per day plus plenty of water on a daily basis, will decrease the risk tremendously!
But if you're generally unhappy with your body then just do more exercise to tone your body. But don't go on any extreme dieting! Eating normally but healthily and exercising may all be you need to boost up your self esteem.
But i'll remind you again - Big Girls are beautiful!
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reader, xoxAnonymous +, writes (28 October 2007):
xoxAnonymous is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank You Guys Im Going To Do It :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): You should have said yes to that boy..but there's plenty of opportunities and lots of other boys waiting in the wings, don't worry about that. You obviosuly are very unhapy with your weight, it's affecting every part of your life and it will continue to do so until you do something about it. No one else can change the way you look except for you. You say that you have tried to lose weight and excerces, but you obviously haven't tried because trying doesn't mean giving it a go for two days then giving up because you don't like it anymore. East three square meals, tell your mum to help you out and not buy any snack or fatty food in the house (you need to have your family's complete support here) and do not even think about starving yourself because when you do eat, you will binge and go mad (trust me, been there, done that!). So you must ensure you do not go starving yourself and that you eat sensibly. You need to be really strong and make the decision and think 'sod everyone else, I'm going to do this for ME'. Don't touch those chocolates and crisps. I did, very successfully, the Weightwatchers diet. Truly I found it wonderful, and even though I'm 9.5 stone now, I still remember it and use it if I put on a few pounds, it really worked for me. The basic premise is healthy eating though. Everytime you see a chocolate bar or bag of crisps, see a big lump of lard going straight on your hips instead and don't be tempted. Do you want to be this unhappy with your weight at such a wonderful time in your life? Of course you don't, but stay strong and focuses and you can do it. Good luck! X
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reader, xxbaybeegal +, writes (27 October 2007):
 well im 10 stone and i think that im kinda fat on my thigs and my belly and of course its a pain to do excersise i mean i tried and got nowhere, but i found out doing little things such as walking to school to the bustop takingpart in extra activities at school helps loose wait everyday, or you could try the step up things i have one of those they are great fun and you lose calories in like 5 minutes.
good luckxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): I'm not going to comment at all on how pretty you may or may not be - that's in the eye of the beholder, and in any case, it's what's inside that's important in that respect.Your weight is a problem though, and if you don't control it somehow you'll become 'Morbidly Obese' sometime in the future - which is to say that eventually you'll gain that much weight that your heart won't be able to cope and you'll end up having a heart attack and dying if you're not careful. Becoming diabetic is another potential problem, no doubt there are other potential problems.You know you've got a problem with your weight, which is a good start. I can only recommend that you get some advice from a dietician, who you can be referred to by your doctor, who will no doubt point out any other unpleasant consequences of being overweight, and offer some solutions as to how to get back to the ideal weight for your height.Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): True, no matter what size you are you are still beautiful. It's the inside that counts not the outside. If you think you are unhappy about your weight and want to do something about it you should. You should start off by cutting back on what you eat. It will take time to do this but will be worth it in the end. Don't eat for the sake of it, Water generally fills you up and if your on the go all the time like out with your mates or something you never think about food. you should try going down to the gym with some friends once a week. Dont try to decide your going to lose weight at once and make it last two days, you need to stick to this and have will power. you should be eating plenty of fruit and vege, but at the same time make sure you eat yiour meats and a small percentage of fat foods.Try to stick to 3 meals per day and balance them out. dont eat after 11pm. you should ignore what that lad says , if he really wanted to be with you he wouldnt make fun of you, and if you really like him then you should of said yes but dont lose weight for anyone.. you need to do it for yourself to prove those bullies out there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2007): People who judge you on your weight/appearance are not people you want to be around. Someone should like/love you for who you are. If being big is a major emotional problem, consider getting some counseling. If your weight is a serious health problem, try talking to your family and see about getting a personal trainer or health consultant.
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