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writes:There is a wedding going on this weekend that my boyfriend is the best man for. I am friends with the couple getting married, but I do not know anyone else that will be there except for my boyfriend of course and he's standing up. I have told him that I will not be going to the wedding since he will be showing up in a limo with all the other guys and leaving with them as well I assume. I get weird when I have to be by myself and don't know anyone. I feel uncomfortable with the idea. I kind of don't want to go to the beginning of the reception as well for the same reason. I know absolutely no one except for the people IN the wedding. My boyfriend is not happy with the idea of me not going and has stated that to me. The guy getting married also stated he would be upset that I wasn't there. Am I wrong for not wanting to go to the wedding or the beginning of the reception? I'm still debating on if I want to try to go to see what happens, maybe I could be ok, but that's not a for sure thing. Please let me know your thoughts. I'm in a bind here and I'm not positive on what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice guys! I went and had a great time! :)
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (12 August 2009):
 I think you should go. Yes you might feel uncomfortable and a bit left out at times but it is important to your boyfriend, and the groom himself so just put your own discomfort aside and go along. You might have a rubbish day but you are going for your boyfriend's sake.
Relationships are about compromise - you will at times have to do things you dont really want to do. But imagine if things were the other way round - say you were maid of honour at your friends wedding. You would of course want your boyfriend there as your date and also for support. Even though he would be lonely in your mind he should go along because he loves you and he is here to support you.
People will talk to you if they see you alone, weddings are happy occasions where everyone is in a good mood and are pretty friendly. Make sure you do go and your boyfriend will really appreciate it that you went despite your reservations.
I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2009): Go and support your boyfriend. I'm sure you won't be the only one there who doesn't know anyone else. I was recently at a wedding and in the same predicament as you. My fiance, the best man, was busy all day. But in my experience people always want to talk and make conversation at these sort of events. And imagine if you were starting a new job or a new class- you wouldn't know anyone there but you would still go. I don't think that not arriving/sitting with your boyfriend is a good reason not to attend, and I also think it is a bit childish. It will make your boyfriend feel bad when there is nothing he can do about it. Go along and have fun, you will meet some nice people.
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