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writes:I am a 24 year old woman and dating a 26 year old guy we have been together for a year now .suddenly he starterd acting up for me like not taking my calls and stoped me from coming to his place he said he has commitment phobia and says he doesn't want to lead me on because he knows that he will never commit since he has this problem I tried to tell him thatI will give him time and he will let me know when he is ready for us to start over again but he refused saying that he doesn't want to waist my time.I love this guy and now starting to think that he has found someone else please help what do u guys think its happening with this guy Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2010): Just let him leave....don't beg, don't cry, to ask....if you are truly a great woman, he just might regret leaving you. I think you should read a book called "why men love bitches" by Sherry Argov. She gives advice on how to women should approach dating and relationships and how to deal with me in general. It sounds like he just isn't that into you and although you love him and it is going to be hard to leave....you should just let him leave if that he truly want he wants. You can't make him want to be with you as he can't make himself want to be with you. Whenever you try to force a guy or manipulate him into being with you....it almost always ends on a bad note.
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reader, CJH  +, writes (30 December 2010):
 It's impossible to say what's happening with him, what you need to focus on is what you want and how to get it.
I know it's been a year and you obviously don't want to walk away from the relationship but consider what the alternative is, staying put and hoping against all hope that he's going to have another change of heart and decide he does want to commit. In the meantime you're going to suffer all the hurt and anguish along the way.
If you really want to play this the right way, call him, tell him you're happy for him to have his time and space and that you yourself need some also.
At this point he will either say fine OR he will begin to question why you're letting go - the tables will be reversed. I don't advocate games to be honest, you should do this for yourself rather than for a reaction but, either way, it's the right thing to do in this case.
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