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writes:My boyfriend and i have been together for 3.5 years. I am 26 and he is 31. in this time, we have not been out on a romatic dinner out (getting dressed up etc). He has never taken me out to a fancy dinner. We occasionally go out for a meal, but nothing special and usually split the bill. When we first went out, he was studying still so didn't earn a lot of money so it was ok. but for the last 1.5 years he has earned more than me and it is a pretty good salary. He has never offered to come over to mine to make a romantic meal. He has probably cooked me dinner less than 5 times and most of the time i have had to supply the food. Ive cooked a few meals for him and tried to set it up as a romantic dinner, but when it was ready he just took his plate to eat in front of the tv. He doesn't seem to want to eat what i cook either. I haven't had to do much of it in the past, so only starting and trying new things but he doesn't want to be the 'guinea pig'. Should this be something to be concerned about?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2012): Hi, i wrote the original post. He knows all of it. Its not just about a dinner it is the fact qe have done nothing romantic
In three years. He has only ever suprised me with something he has planned once. I havent taken him out to a meal and paid because i cant afford it. He earns about 15k more than me and does not have a mortgage or bills to pay. I would cool him a meal but he wont eat what i make or constantly critises it in how i should do it his way or te way his mother makes it. It is hard to want to takr him out when i constantly get shut down when i suggest things to do. We do not go out at night and get a little dressed up. The onky place is the movies every other month and he wont even do dinner before or after. We have never been on a picnic - and i have suggest it alot in summer/spring. I also dont mean i want to do this every weekend but something nice every other month would be good. To top it off i ony see him on the weekends which is why it would be nice.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 July 2012):
 1. talk to him.
2. Invite him out to a romantic dinner.
As for him not wanting to be your guinea pig, that is ridiculous - we all have to learn how to cook new meals by trying.
Don't forget he can't read your mind and instantly know what you want.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 July 2012):
 have you told him you want to have romantic dinners?
I like to cook and most folks think I'm a good cook but my current partner is picky about what he eats (very little) and thinks I'm a terrible cook.
I would rather eat at the table but he wants to eat in front of the TV so we do that most of the time, however, birthdays and other special events we go out for a nice dinner...
if you want something and you have told him you want it and he does not want it or does not provide it and you feel it's very important then this is something to be concerned about because as time goes on you will become more and more angry that you don't get what you want...
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (19 July 2012):
 It depends. Do you do other things that you would consider "romantic" that you do together and enjoy? Is he thoughtful in other ways besides taking you to dinner? If he is a thoughtful person and is romantic in other ways, I would not put all of your focus on the dinners. I would still say something to him about it such as..."I would really like to wear something nice and go out for dinner tonight...would you like to go?" All I'm saying is that maybe your guy isn't the "romantic dinner" type but he does other things for you. With my current boyfriend, we go out to dinner, but I consider any time I get to spend with him special. It does not have to be that we get dressed up and go out. We can go to the local sandwich shop and have as much fun as going to a fancy restaurant. But, if it is something you want...go ahead and ask him.
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