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writes:Recently, my best friend brokeup with her girl friend. Even though when they were lovers i was in good terms with the girl. But when they brokeup, she started calling me frequently on phone to visit her and that i should buy something for her when coming, even though i try to avoid her because she is staying alone, but she kept disturbing. So should i go.advise me.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (13 March 2009):
 Dont go to see her, it is not worth risking your friendship for. She is probably looking for a re-bound after she has split up with your friend, she will only be using you.
Girls often get very insecure after a break-up and require male attention to stop them from feeling so alone. So she sees you as the person to do this because you were friends with her in the past. Once you tell her you have no intention of going to see her then she will back down and start looking for the next guy to jump on!
And what is all this about wanting you to buy her something? That just sounds crazy to me, she is clearly no good at being alone and has trouble written all over her. Tell her to stop contacting you and that you are not interested. Hopefully she will get the point!
Make sure you put your frienship before this girl, you wouldnt like your best friend to be involved with your ex so dont do it to him!
I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2009): Mate - you said he is your best friend. Its a pretty easy solution - if he really is your best friend, you will not betray him by doing anything silly with his ex girl!
I know people may disagree with me, but you have to remember that you are in a relationship with your best friend, and that is called friendship. Do the right thing - and dont touch his 'ex-girl'.
She may very well be trying to hurt him by going to you, she may really have no genuine feelings for you.
And if you are considering this simply for the sexual advantages - dont. There are plenty of women available for 'casual' relations - dont use this one and risk ruining your freindship with your best friend.
Good luck!
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